[twistedsister]

Ive noticed than when i get in a relationship everything is fine until it hits about the 2 and a half yr mark.After that i dont want to have sex anymore and i feel that i dont want to be in the relationship.

Im not a bitch but i just dont understand why i cant fall in love!I want to!
Every single relationship ive been in it always happens.I hate it because i used to think i was in love with the person until 2 and a half yrs comes up then i realise it must have just been lust!I feel such a fool.
I dont understand why i cant fall in love.All my boyfriends have been lovely and i genuinley thought i loved them.What am i doing wrong?

[lostinyouth]

If you are concerned about your relationships being solely lustfull, try a different approach. Don't have sex until you love them. That way you don't have to be worried about weather it's lust or love. I am definatly not saying don't be intimate... Just don't give it up like candy on Halloween. If the next guy is interested in you as a person, not an object, he should have no problem waiting. Anticipation could make it that much more enjoyable. Make sure you establish a healthy way of communicating. If you need an excuse to make him hold off testing is allways a slow downer... Guys don't usually like to get tested. Just take it slow and keep a cool head. When you are ready you will fall in love.

[The Studmuffin]

you should call yourself lucky! it's 2 and half WEEK for me!
so... i feel your pain.

[twistedsister]

thanks for replying.How will i know if im in love though.I know it sounds a stupid question but ive thought i was in love before but it turned out i wasnt.
Im with someone now and ive been with him 2 and a half yrs.Hes a lovely bloke but i just dont want anything anymore.Where not intimate and we harldy spend any time together.He always tells me he loves me but im not sure if i feel that way back.I thought i did.Now i feel a cow.

[lostinyouth]

Love is more a choice then a feeling, at least I think so. Yeah chosing to love someone might make you feel all warm and tingly or whatever... But you have to decide whether you want to be in love, stay in love or not. I guess you should really be asking your self if you will ever fall in love.

Probably not, unfortunately

[j.carsey]

"And if I do, will it be with you?" -- great song, a bit cheesy

Yeah a common worry I guess. It's so hard to call things love. I didn't think I loved my ex girlfriend, she would tell me she loved me and I deliberately didn't say it back, because I thought I was not that attached to her and I didn't want to mislead her. But I was wrong, I did love her! Oh the irony and pain. lol

The following applies to only me, this is just how I think

While most people like to separate out romance from friendship, the best way I can describe love as in love for my partner ... is a bond that grows closer and closer, until not only are you like best friends, but there is also fondness of the other person, respect, trust, concern for well being, desire to protect them from harm, and a comfort and ease that comes from knowing everything about them. And on top of that is a persistent physical attraction but that can be of varying degrees because sex isn't everything to everyone.

When in the mornings I saw my girlfriend lying in bed, hair all in a mess, sleeping so beautifully and content half on me, a couple times I got a bit teary eyed and I thought... I wonder if this is the image of love.

And to be honest that's what I've been looking for since, with other girls I am dating. Close, but haven't felt that again yet