[sugarplum]

Anyone out there have kids that the absent parent has nothing to do with? I mean, they walked away, haven't seen for years. How are your kids - and you- dealing with it? please, I know if you read some of my other posts, my life is like a daytime talkshow right now. I know. Its embarrassing but its what I'm dealt at the moment.....

[Teag]

My childrens father is in their lives but growing up my father was never in my life. He would only come around if i "found" him & I actually went 10 years w/out seeing, talking to him. I turn out fine. Luckily I have a wonderful step father and grandfather who took the place of my dad.To me it really didn't matter my dad wasn't in my life b/c I had my step dad & grandfather. Yeah it hurt but he was an alcoholic & wouldn't have done any good if he was in my life.

[My_Other_I]

Sometimes it might be better if the missing parent remained missing forever. I wish my parent was absent and missing, but my parent is only absent and abusive. That way I could believe that my parent is a wonderful person living a wonderful life somewhere. Instead, I have to deal with the reality that I am air and my parent is a misserably living failure of human race and us, the kids.
It depends on the person. You might be better off without your kids knowing their father.

[justpassingthrough]

Originally Posted by sugarplum

Anyone out there have kids that the absent parent has nothing to do with? I mean, they walked away, haven't seen for years. How are your kids - and you- dealing with it?

My ex-husband took off eight years ago and hasn't been heard from since.

Sure, I've had to raise the children, now 16 and 17, fully by myself and that hasn't been easy. However, the alternative is "visitation" with an unstable crack addict.

How have the children fared? Quite well.

Truthfully, it's been a blessing in disguise.

I wish you the best.