[confused423]

so ive heard that if your loved one becomes overly jealous, and causes fights for no real reason, making accusations towards you, and basically showing her insecurities. does that mean that shes testing you, or that she might have done something or maby shes afraid shes gonna do something... i guess what my question is, why would a loved one come off making accusations and tell you that your going to leave her for another girl, unless she was haveing doubts that she might stay with you and is wondering that you might be feeling the same...

im not sure if i worded this clearly but if not just ask for clarification, thanks for the advice )

[crazy_grl]

So basically, you're asking if there's any truth to the concept that if your SO starts accusing you of cheating/wanting to leave that it's really what they're doing/thinking?

I don't know how much truth there is to that, but it seems to me that the best way to figure this out would be to talk to your SO about why she's behaving this way. It could be many reasons. For example. she could have found something that makes her suspect you're seeing another girl (email, text, phone call, etc) and she just doesn't want to confront you about it. Just tell her you're concerned about the way she's been acting and want to know if something's wrong. Don't bring up that you think she may be cheating or wanting to leave though. That could come off as an accusation. Now if she is, she might not tell you the truth, but you should be able to at get a sense of whether she's lying. And if she's not cheating or getting ready to leave you, you'll be able to figure out how to resolve the issue.

[Poboy]

its dependent on your partner , there can be a few reasons

1. she is doubting you and your actions and doesnt trust you enough.
2. She loves you so much she is afraid of loosing you.
3.Its her natural personality to be over cautious , jealous etc.

You will have to find out why she is like that and if you are the reason she is like that , you need to reassure her from time to time that she can trust you with no qualms.

[Pink Amulet]

It is the approach that can better the situation or feed it. Make a more concious effort to tell her why is she is beautiful and important to you rather than telling her why she shouldn't be jealous or worry.