[sirjay]

Opinions wanted on this, please!


I have a very strong emotional bond with my ex of 3 years, who i have posted about elsewhere on this forum. We have been broken up for a few months and...

A lot of strange things have been happening since we broke up, things that I have never experienced with anyone else. I have been deeply in love several times before but this never happened, nor with family or friends...

She got hurt while we were in NC and I got a feeling and sent her a text just after saying "just wanted to make sure you were ok. i worry about you"

i wrote her a letter the other day and ended it with the expression "its all good" (i think its a dumb expression and i really was surprised i used it at the time but didnt change it). i DIDNT sent the letter but 2 days later she broke NC and ended the message with "i hope you are all good" (and in 3 years we never once said it in conversation).

i was sitting in a club, in a city with thousands of clubs, and visualised her walking in, what she was wearing etc, and at that exact moment she walked into my field of vision and it was so identical i thought i was imagining it...

I have to point out that i am scientific by profession and very skeptical about this kind of thing but it keeps on happening, only with her.

What does it mean? Is it happening to her too?

[Admiral Thrawn]

Nah, you should keep your mind on things of God. Are you saved? Do you know where you are going after you die? Does she know where she is going? Those are the important questions.

[Guitar Wizard]

Originally Posted by Admiral Thrawn

Nah, you should keep your mind on things of God. Are you saved? Do you know where you are going after you die? Does she know where she is going? Those are the important questions.

If he thinks about those things too hard he’ll find this strange attraction to little boys.

Anyway, now for some advice that doesn't say "Erm, yeah, god will take care of all of it."

He might, but I think that we need to be a little more self-active, just in case.

So...

It might not be that bad to "Bury the Hatchet" so-to speak. It's been 3 years? You might as well try and extend the arm of friendship, after a long period of time you'll find it's easyer to do this, not to mention ex-lovers make great friends usually because you don't care about the past anymore and they have all the qualitys that drew you to them in the first place.

If she's really on your mind that much, have coffee with her, catch up on old times, you might end up feeling good that you arn't carrying around the burden of a grudge.

So... good luck man.