Figured I'd just cut through the ***** and help my fellow man out a little bit. A few tips for the road.
Catching her--
Rule #1: act like you don't give a f*ck about whether you get in her panties or not. From the very first time you meet her to the very last time you kiss, make her think that p*ssy's not everything to you. 'Coz if you do the opposite, she'll know that she can control you, and you don't want that. Never bring up the topic of sex. Never joke about it. Avoid innuendo. Let her be the one to kick off that conversation if it ever comes up at all.
Rule #2: be real. Although DD's 'cocky and funny' routine does work, you don't necessarily have to have it. You just have to be real. You just have to look like you're comfortable in your own skin.
Rule #3: Let her do all the talking. On dates or just idle chats in between meetings, make sure she's the one running her mouth. Men almost always kill their chances in the beginning by saying something that kills the attraction. You can rarely say too little, but you can almost always say too much. Don't. Just make sure you're the one asking questions and don't answer any personal questions until at least you've got a few dates under your belt.
Rule #4: Know the signs of attraction and pay close attention to them. Eye contact, smiling, laughing and touching...if you have two or more of these in tandem, it's more than a coincidence - act on it. If you don't get these signs too often, keep looking.
Rule #5: last but definitely not least, be masculine. Understand that women want men. You don't have to be a tough guy, but you've got to let that maleness come through.
Keeping her (the hard part)--
1. Again, act like you don't give a f*ck about getting in her pants. Make her think 'If he gets laid...dammit, I still can't control him.'
2. Do NOT take her crap for a second. If she starts flirting with guys right in front of you, or makes plans whenever it's convenient for her or otherwise makes you look like a clown, don't tolerate it - not even once. Which brings me to point number 3...
3. Don't tell her what you're going to do, just do it. Don't tell her you're angry. Don't tell her that you don't like it when she changes her plans at the last minute. Don't get jealous if she starts talking about her new 'friend' she met at a party last weekend. Just start pulling back and seeing a few 'friends' of your own. Let her see that you're a man of action and that you're not going to put up with her crap.
4. Keep your mouth shut. Sorta like rule number 3 except in general, this is a good rule to remember when it comes to arguments. Just keep your mouth shut. You may be tempted to tell her what you really think, and she may always go on about how she really wants to know your true feelings, but believe me when I tell you she does NOT want to know what you're really thinking. She wants you to tell her what she wants to hear - nothing more, nothing less. Avoid arguments. You will never be right, you will always lose. Just shut up and decide when you've had enough...and then go back to rule number 3 if necessary (or break up if you're really had enough).
5. Don't fall in love before she does. It's as simple as that. Women are more emotional, so let them get carried away with their emotions the way they normally do, and continue to be the cool, calm, reserve, detached male whose love she tries to win over.
6. Never let her change who you are. Taking karate lessons on the weekends and she wants you to give that up for more 'us time'? Don't give in. Keep kicking ass in the dojo and keep her waiting for you to come home.
These are just a few pointers. Follow these basic rules, grasshoppers, and you'll succeed with women.
__________________ Should have been dead on a Sunday morning bangin' my head, no time for mournin', ain't got no time -- My Own Prison, Creed
Last edited by amerikajin; 11th June 2006 at 1:29 PM..
You have some good points in there, but you've taken it too far to the extreme. A guy who was acting that standoffish would never get anywhere with me. In fact, most of the time I don't take interest in a guy until he shows a little interest in me first.
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yes I would agree with all this stuff...and BTW, women are usually going to say this stuff is crap and does not work but from a male perspective it does work.
I agree with Crazy grl. Too extreme. Yes there are good points, but seems that the implication is to make the girl feel insecure and as though you'll split at any second. Probably wont' fly with most well-adjusted women.
I actually think that, point by point, this is dead-on...for *both* genders. It's exactly right! If I had done all this stuff, my BF (and previous exes) would still be around, panting over me, wondering what was going on in my head, trying to convince me that he's the one. I wish I hadn't been so transparent; I wish I had made him work to keep me. I just made it too easy for him. But I have totally learned my lesson; I won't ever make it too easy for a man again. From now on, I'm following this strategy to the letter.
People get bored if they're not challenged. Women, don't get caught up in denying it works on you; just take notes on this strategy too!! This is the way to catch and keep a man. Great post!
Oh, and I think alphamale's also right that women won't admit it. Nobody wants to admit they could be easily manipulated, so yeah, I think both men and women wouldn't want to admit it would work on them. But you know what? This is human nature, right here. It works on everyone, so there isn't any point in arguing about it. Everybody falls for it.
but seems that the implication is to make the girl feel insecure and as though you'll split at any second. Probably wont' fly with most well-adjusted women.
it seems to have worked for me many times in the past WALK....the idea, from my perspective, is to always keep the upper hand with women....no matter what.
If she ever believes she has me 100% then I'm screwed!
I'd want nothing to do with a man who wouldn't talk. Keep in mind that you can only keep up pretense for so long - eventually your true self will out.
And women, this is why I caution people to give it many months before deciding someone is worth staying with. They can keep this BS up for maybe 6 - 8 months but eventually it will get too exhausting, you'll see the real jerk underneath, and have a chance to flee.
Ugh. This isn't about love. It's about playing a game to get laid. Amerikajin, call it what it is " The Player's Handbook".
To many rules. If I have to act like I don't care and can't let her know I want in her panties then she is not the girl for me. I would just be off to the next one. My rule is to show interest and don't become a friend if you want more. If things don't work out then we were not meant to be. period.
it seems to have worked for me many times in the past WALK....the idea, from my perspective, is to always keep the upper hand with women....no matter what.
If she ever believes she has me 100% then I'm screwed!
Your relationship don't last long either, do they?
many times they last as long as I want them to...I am in the drivers seat. 80% of the time it is me who ends the relationship.
True, but is it not because you've ended up with a crazy/clingy chick that you get sick of due of your use of these tactics.
Yeah, this is a method of getting (mostly nailing) SOME girls, but it's not a method for starting a relationship. And if you wanna get right down to it, it's a way for insecure and scared guys to not have to actually open themselves up to having a real connection with a woman. You guys can pass off this advice all you want, but don't misrepresent it as something it's not.
And if you wanna get right down to it, it's a way for insecure and scared guys to not have to actually open themselves up to having a real connection with a woman.
maybe you are right C_G....but tell me, what is wrong with it when you are honest and up-front with the women and they still stick around and are eating out of your hand?
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