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Old 9th June 2006, 5:50 AM   #1
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What Not To Do If She Dumps You

Here's a list of what NOT to do if your girlfriend is
breaking up with you.


1) Do NOT fight with her. Fighting ALWAYS creates
tension and kills attraction. Fighting with a woman is useless.
Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war.

2) Do NOT try to use logic to show her why she should
come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No
matter how brilliant your logic is, she's still going to leave
you.

3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" so
things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to
bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole is
still there and your words are not going to mend it.

4) Do NOT keep telling her you love her. She won't
care. All a woman cares about is how much SHE loves YOU...not
the other way around!)

5) Do NOT beg her to come back. The more you beg, the
more she will ignore you.

6) Do NOT try to make her feel guilty about leaving you.
(Examples: "I can't work without you." and "Don't break up
with me during exam period...") It won't work. It will only
make her DREAD being with you even more.

7) Do not act depressed so they will feel bad for you.
Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION!

8) Do NOT talk to her friends to win their support. All
she cares is how SHE fees about you. Even if her friends love you,
they can't make her love you forever. External pressure never
lasts longer. If your girl decides to stay with you, her motivation
has to come from WITHIN.

9) Do NOT spend money on gifts and flowers for her. You
can't buy her heart back with money.

10) Do NOT push her into getting back with you. The more
you push, the more she will PULL AWAY.

These are the most common mistakes guys make during a
breakup. Trust me, you don't want to do ANY of these things.
If you do, I can guarantee you your relationship will be doomed.
You probably won't even get a chance to kiss your girlfriend
goodbye, let alone get her back.
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Old 9th June 2006, 9:07 AM   #2
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damn i wish i heard that before now its too late good points...i just dont get it ..why girls behave like that like when you beg or show to them you love them so much or show to them that youre loosing your life without them instead of make their heart soft the usually get irritated... i thought that is the reason why she loved me but when she dumps you...begging to her is like taking a scuicide.... there is girl in my past who begged me to give her another chance and it touched my heart completely and love her more ...but to girls begging to them is pushing ger away even further... i wish there is a honest girl who can explain this to me... why girls behave like that...
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Old 9th June 2006, 9:49 AM   #3
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yeah ive taken a girl back coz she's begged. i know plenty of guys that have done the same...... they get touched by it.

Guys have a big NEED in relationships....... its called "feeling NEEDED"

Girls ARE NOT THE SAME. Thats where us guys can go wrong.

Girls want confident and safe men.

therefore NO CONTACT. I can live happy without you. That usually gets to them.
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Old 9th June 2006, 10:34 AM   #4
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[quote=RealBroken]

Girls ARE NOT THE SAME. Thats where us guys can go wrong.

Girls want confident and safe men.
QUOTE]

AMEN to THAT statement!
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Old 9th June 2006, 10:45 AM   #5
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OH MY GOD........... SOMEONE AGREED WITH ME ON THIS FORUM!!!!

WHOOOO HOOOO HA HA HA.


Huhhh, i learn that info too late though. At least in know now i guess.

Is stupid how men arent allowed to go through any lows in life though, their bloody women will leave them!
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Old 9th June 2006, 10:56 AM   #6
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I can guarantee you your relationship will be doomed.
I'm afraid the relationship is doomed at the point you break up...
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Old 9th June 2006, 11:05 AM   #7
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yah.. but i hope its not that too late and i hope if there is guy still doing this stuff atleast he will knw the reason why he must stop it...lets hope he dose not push it too far ,,,to far to get her back again...
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Old 9th June 2006, 11:17 AM   #8
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'ART CRITIC' your cup is always half EMPTY. Seems you are bitter.
I know several people that have broken up,.... to then later recdoncile and then marry! My parents included. 40 years.
I dont think ive ever seen u say something nice on this forum.
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Old 9th June 2006, 11:24 AM   #9
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Woman dont want a guy whos needs them.


Almost sounds contradictory doesnt it. Life is really funny in this aspect.
if you wanna keep someone, pretend you dont.

How dumb!

But i guess its the way.
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Old 9th June 2006, 3:23 PM   #10
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My friend broke it down to me in the spirit of what you said, but somewhat more succinctly. He said simply, "Sometimes you have to reverse the polarity."


Super true. All of it.


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Old 9th June 2006, 3:36 PM   #11
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'ART CRITIC' your cup is always half EMPTY. Seems you are bitter.
I know several people that have broken up,.... to then later recdoncile and then marry! My parents included. 40 years.
I dont think ive ever seen u say something nice on this forum.
Are you calling me out ???

My cup isn't half empty or half full.. and I'm far from bitter.

You totally missed the point of my post..
If you are broken up.. that is the worst it can be.. right ??

Broken up means broken up.. it doesn't broken up but I still love you and want to get back together with you next month

How old are you ?? generally young inexperienced people have the attitude that all it takes is love..

Sometimes people are just not meant to be together.. no matter how romantic the dumpee wants life to be
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Old 9th June 2006, 3:38 PM   #12
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I dont think ive ever seen u say something nice on this forum.

I will ask you nicely this once.. get off my back..

Look up my posts.. they are not full of hatred or negativity..
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Old 9th June 2006, 3:49 PM   #13
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'ART CRITIC' your cup is always half EMPTY. Seems you are bitter.
I know several people that have broken up,.... to then later recdoncile and then marry! My parents included. 40 years.
I dont think ive ever seen u say something nice on this forum.
A_C is Always nice to me!
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Old 9th June 2006, 4:22 PM   #14
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A_C is Always nice to me!
thanks LB..

I hate when people try and provoke crap..
Nobody has to agree with me or even take my advice.. but attacking and posting a different viewpoint are 2 different things
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Old 9th June 2006, 4:27 PM   #15
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thanks LB..

I hate when people try and provoke crap..
Nobody has to agree with me or even take my advice.. but attacking and posting a different viewpoint are 2 different things
I recommend therapy for this thread.
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