Every case is different. Some guys sleep around a lot and finally realize it's unfulfilling. Others can't or won't commit. Still others remain stuck at one emotional age level and never grow up. So it depends on the guy and his story - maybe he's sick to death of that sort of lifestyle and wants to have a partner in love and life now.
My sense is that she won't because (1) as a girl, it is likely that she feels implicitly that his numbers mean that he is a man's man who is desired by other women and who gets what he wants and (2) very few women value male chastity and in fact, think that something is wrong with him if he hasn't been around a little bit...
My sense though is that this is a hypothetical intended to illustrate the double standard applied around here?
But, I reject completely the notion that someone who has been promiscuous in the past will automatically hump anything that stands still. This goes for men and for women. Just because a person, male OR female, has had a lot of sex doesn't mean that they can't be in a serious, meaningful relationship.
It depends totally on him and on how they are together.
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But, I reject completely the notion that someone who has been promiscuous in the past will automatically hump anything that stands still. This goes for men and for women. Just because a person, male OR female, has had a lot of sex doesn't mean that they can't be in a serious, meaningful relationship.
It depends totally on him and on how they are together.
I agree with this 100%. Someone's past is not always an indicator of their future. People do have the ability to grow and change.
I agree with this 100%. Someone's past is not always an indicator of their future. People do have the ability to grow and change.
I do agree with your comment to a certain extent LK, but surely someone who has given it up easily in the past still has a tendancy to be quite relaxed about sex and will still may have the inclination to give it up easily if given the right situation?
If they didn't have any respect for their body at young age, why the sudden change of heart when they grow a little older?
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For me, 28 would be too young to have that many sex partners.
My husband is almost 38 and he had probably 29 partners. But, he was single for a long time too. He didn't lose his virginity until 18 so he made up for lost time!
For me, that was alot of partners. My first husband had three, but we were younger when we got married. So, yeah, it bothered me. But he was so good to me, and we were so in love it didn't matter enough for me to break it off with him. He'd been tested for everything and had a clean bill of health.
It was especially hard for me when we went to our new church together. It's very big and has 6,000 members but one day in service there were not one, but two women he'd slept with in his younger years!
But, I wasn't a saint either so what could I say? I guess it depends on what you're comfortable with personally and the person.
My sense though is that this is a hypothetical intended to illustrate the double standard applied around here?
Even though this post is obviously as that described above, I say the guy is a big slut who shows no self-restraint or good judgement. At best he is probably an opportunist. And should this be true, the fact that she found out by accident suggests he is not very honest, as such, she should dump him for that too
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So this girl meets a guy who has had many (25-35) women in bed before. Most of them were probably one-night stands. He is 28 years old.
Is he a slut and is she just one of his adevntures? Is he prone to cheating? What do you think?
Should she ditch him? She didn't know about his past until she discovered some things by accident.
25/35!! IMO That's quite tame in today's standards, especially for a guy of 28. I wouldn't class him as slut, I wouldn't think he would be prone to cheating, although hard to say, and no, she shouldn't dump him.
Just out of curiosity, how many partners do you think are accepptable for a man/woman of 28/30?
So this girl meets a guy who has had many (25-35) women in bed before. Most of them were probably one-night stands. He is 28 years old.
Is he a slut and is she just one of his adevntures? Is he prone to cheating? What do you think?
I think he is probably going to use her for sex just like he used many other women for sex. Plus the diseases... men can carry many of them without showing any symptoms.
Yuck! So uh anyway unless the girl feels a fantastic bond developing with the guy, she should avoid I think. Even if she wants to stick with him wait a LONG time before sex, that will really test to see what he's in it for
Should she ditch him? She didn't know about his past until she discovered some things by accident.
Pretty much, yes. There isn't much for me to say.
If she can't deal with a guy, who has slept around a lot, then quite frankly they will not mesh together.
Those type of guys, have a certain stereotype brainwashed/imprinted into their head, that it will take some adjustment, realization, and down time for them to settle down with ONE woman. Until then, they'll just keep on going. Hopefully they'll hit a wall sometime soon. Tough luck!
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