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Old 7th June 2006, 3:19 PM   #1
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I feel like Im acting like a child. Like some little girl in grade school. Im engaged, we have been together for 4 years (engaged for 6 months) and have a 2 year old son together. I have kissed 3 other guys since we have been together but no real infidelity. But the other night we were at this party at his cousins house. I knew most of the people there except a few, and one of the few was this guy, Tyler. As soon as I saw him I felt instantly drawn to him. All night long I felt that every time I was looking at him that he was looking back at me too. Even touching my hands and arms during our interaction. We had our son with us that night also and he (Tyler) was always playing with him and hanging around me and my son. Well, that night has came and gone and I cant quit thinking about him. All day long, and honestly, even during sex with my fiance. Now Im feeling like I shouldnt be getting married this September because how should I when I am having these kind of feelings about a somewhat stranger. I just feel that if Tyler and I got to know eachother that something might come of it, and I almost wish it would and want to try to persue it. Is the way Im acting completely rediculous or do things like this sometimes happen to people? I just need someone elses opinion.
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Old 7th June 2006, 9:40 PM   #2
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I just feel that if Tyler and I got to know eachother that something might come of it, and I almost wish it would and want to try to persue it. Is the way Im acting completely rediculous or do things like this sometimes happen to people? I just need someone elses opinion.
Sexual attraction is biological. Your body picks up on sexual signals given off by another body. It means nothing in terms of whether you are 'meant to be together' or that you'd get along well or anything else. All it means is that your sexual signals mingle well. That's it. Yes, it will happen and it's definitely not worth throwing away someone you love over.

People keep forgetting that we are animals still and that, like all animals, we still have mating instincts that have nothing to do with love. However we are supposed to use our brains to recognize that
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Old 7th June 2006, 11:40 PM   #3
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I have kissed 3 other guys since we have been together but no real infidelity.
Honestly, in my opinion, this comment speaks a lot louder than having infatuation with a guy. You dont consider kissing infidelity? Does your fiance know you kissed these guys? If you're keeping it secret, why? I dont think you are ready for marriage, atleast not with this guy. Why are you getting married?
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Old 9th June 2006, 2:36 PM   #4
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You are not ready for commitment.

Watch run away bride and get some ideas.

*On the other hand ....You could save a fortune and cancel things before It gets expensive as well as messy.
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