Tell me something. Is it necessary for me to accept offers from women who want to buy me drinks or lunches in order for me to get a decent date? To be real honest I find it an absolute turn off when a woman offers to buy anything for me. I love taking women out to eat and I love to pay her way all the time. This does not mean I want a golddigger either.
But is it possible to get a decent gf who is not a gold digger if I refuse to let her pay for dinner? Also, how much money per week must I spend at the minimum to keep a relationship going?
What if she says, "look you paid last time, I'm paying this time"? At some point in the relationship you're going to have to be more relaxed about this. It's going to add up and unless your rich...it's not very practical.
What if she says, "look you paid last time, I'm paying this time"? At some point in the relationship you're going to have to be more relaxed about this. It's going to add up and unless your rich...it's not very practical.
I guess for couples who like going to expensive fancy dinners then it might be more beneficial for both partners to take turns paying. I don't go out to expensive restaraunts. On average the costs for both of our meals when I take a girl out add up between 22-26$ for that night. I go out to eat about once a month.
Maybe it's a matter of debt. He feels that if she pays, then he'll have accrued debt. He has low self-esteem, low confidence, then he has to feel as though she owes him. 50/50 wouldn't work for him because he'd have to have a shred of confidence in who he is in order to believe a woman would want him for more then what his money affords her.
Meals out 3x a week. A movie or special outing every saturday... You're talking big bucks here. Plus the shopping trips, getting her hair and nails done. Tanning.... I think you need a better job.
I guess for couples who like going to expensive fancy dinners then it might be more beneficial for both partners to take turns paying. I don't go out to expensive restaraunts. On average the costs for both of our meals when I take a girl out add up between 22-26$ for that night. I go out to eat about once a month.
Still adds up quick if you two start getting more serious and see each other more often. Unless you cook at home and invite her over.
Meals out 3x a week. A movie or special outing every saturday... You're talking big bucks here. Plus the shopping trips, getting her hair and nails done. Tanning.... I think you need a better job.
Still adds up quick if you two start getting more serious and see each other more often. Unless you cook at home and invite her over.
I prefer to see her no more than once every 2 weeks. And yes sometimes I cook at home. I like cooking a big breakfast once every 2 months. I would only date the girls that have jobs of their own so they can spend their own money on getting their hair & nails done.
I was giving an estimate when I said I go out to eat once a month. Sometimes it's once every 2 months. Sometimes it's twice a month. It depends on the time of the year and how far away I am from tax season.
On special occasions I buy gifts but there's no way in hell I'm going to accept gifts from her. I've told women before that if they are thinking of buying a gift for my birthday or christmas please don't bother. I want her to save her money so she can afford to do the things she enjoys doing on her own.
A relationship is not a perpetual outing or vacation by the way. Those kind of women are not my type if they expect to go out and get involved in expensive activities 3 times a week. That is unreasonable.
You sound kind of controlling. Do you date much? Do you have a steady GF?
How is it controlling of me to refuse gifts or refuse being treated out to lunch? I think it's rather controlling for any woman who insists that I accept her gifts. No I don't have a girlfriend at the moment and I don't want one for awhile. I'm recuperating from a long relationship. I don't see how it's controlling of me to not let a woman have her way in the relationship all the time.
How is it controlling of me to refuse gifts or refuse being treated out to lunch? I think it's rather controlling for any woman who insists that I accept her gifts.
Double standard.It's ok for a woman to accept your gifts, but not the other way around?
What if she offers to cook you dinner? Would you refuse that?
Is it an absolute rule in dating guides & books that 2 people must go out to dinner or a movie every single week? Who came up with these ideas? I think that's just a generalization. It only depends on the 2 people involved.
Double standard.It's ok for a woman to accept your gifts, but not the other way around?
What if she offers to cook you dinner? Would you refuse that?
Well in the 1st place she would have to cook dinner at my house. I don't like to hang out at other people's houses let alone spend the night. I can cook my own meals. I don't need her to do that. She's not my mother.
If it really bothers her so much then she just has to find a man who loves things like that. I'm not the type of man who looks for the same things that the majority of men look for in a woman. So it's not controlling on my end. It's not right or wrong. It's just a matter of finding someone who is compatiable.
Last edited by radiation7740; 3rd June 2006 at 6:23 PM.
You sound inflexible and rigid. What do you do for fun?
I go to the arcade, hang out with friends, play chess, play pool, bowling, swimming, & reading these boards. I just so happen to be reading these boards to pass the time on my day off. Sometimes I'll go to a restaraunt alone or go to a movie alone. I'm content. I know how to have a blast by myself.
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