[dice4]

I go out a lot on weekends and when I am with just some friends and not on a date with a woman I get a chance to sit back and watch other people. It cracks me up when I see a nice woman pull up out side a restaurant or club and she gets out {she's driving} and some overweight guy gets out and they go in together, then later I see her paying for there drinks and then there kissing. The woman is dressed nice and the beer belly guy is wearing a T-shirt with sweat stains and some scrapy shorts. Now I don't want to cut on people but what is her attraction to him. I am not any better than them but I do try to watch my weight and want to look good for a woman and have a good job. I've seen men verbally abuse some woman in public for looking at other men or talking to them and calling them "bitch" and "slut" and such choice names and they keep going out with him. I enjoy my dating life and have been with some nice woman and I would never treat them this way. So what gives?

[Yamaha]

I am not any better than them but I do try to watch my weight and want to look good for a woman and have a good job.

Sounds like you think you are. Read your post again.

Why do you care? If she's happy with him what is it to you? These women must be sexually desirable to you or you wouldn't care who they were with.
You should befriend one of thes guys and find out how they are getting the women you want.

[vi_pn_babe25]

Money is the root of all evil...but I couldn't imagine waking up next to:

1.) Bill Gates
2.) Donald Trump
3.) Hugh Hefner

Does that make sense?

[norajane]

Originally Posted by dice4

I go out a lot on weekends and when I am with just some friends and not on a date with a woman I get a chance to sit back and watch other people. It cracks me up when I see a nice woman pull up out side a restaurant or club and she gets out {she's driving}

Yes, some ladies like to drive. Or their guys ride motorcycles and that doesn't go with her outfit for the evening.

Originally Posted by dice4

and some overweight guy gets out and they go in together, then later I see her paying for there drinks and then there kissing.

So, you (dateless) are sitting back laughing at a man who is dating and kissing a nice woman? Unless you are laughing at yourself in appreciation of the irony, you need to reconsider who's having the last laugh.

Originally Posted by dice4

The woman is dressed nice and the beer belly guy is wearing a T-shirt with sweat stains and some scrapy shorts. Now I don't want to cut on people but what is her attraction to him.

Women like to dress up, no matter the occasion, and a lot of guys don't. Women even like to dress up for their guys. Beer belly guy might be a warm, playful, passionate lover, and he might be the kind of guy who helps her mother tear up the carpeting, and maybe he always knows how to tease her out of a bad mood. Maybe he's brilliant or maybe they both love The Lord of the Rings. Who knows? Sexy and attractive isn't always about looks.

Originally Posted by dice4

I am not any better than them but I do try to watch my weight and want to look good for a woman and have a good job. I've seen men verbally abuse some woman in public for looking at other men or talking to them and calling them "bitch" and "slut" and such choice names and they keep going out with him. I enjoy my dating life and have been with some nice woman and I would never treat them this way. So what gives?

I honestly don't know who all these women are who are being called bitch and slut by their boyfriends - I don't see it in in public, not even in bars. If you see this all the time, find a new circle of friends/places to hang out.

[KillaPetehog]

Originally Posted by dice4

I go out a lot on weekends and when I am with just some friends and not on a date with a woman I get a chance to sit back and watch other people. It cracks me up when I see a nice woman pull up out side a restaurant or club and she gets out {she's driving} and some overweight guy gets out and they go in together, then later I see her paying for there drinks and then there kissing. The woman is dressed nice and the beer belly guy is wearing a T-shirt with sweat stains and some scrapy shorts. Now I don't want to cut on people but what is her attraction to him. I am not any better than them but I do try to watch my weight and want to look good for a woman and have a good job. I've seen men verbally abuse some woman in public for looking at other men or talking to them and calling them "bitch" and "slut" and such choice names and they keep going out with him. I enjoy my dating life and have been with some nice woman and I would never treat them this way. So what gives?

Do you want to know the truth?

While you were sitting here complaining about this situation...you could have went out there and GONE OUT THERE...and talked to a woman..

But you didn't, did you?

Why?

That's what that guy has that you don't.

Initiative.
Confidence.
Action.

He had the confidence to approach her.
You didn't.

During this whole time that you were sitting here...twiddling your thumbs...and wondering and bytching about what happened...

you could have done something with your life.

A woman likes a MAN. A man who can make her feel. That man probably has more confidence, self-respect, self-confidence, and initiative.

Do you know what the difference between you and him is?

That man doesn't care who you are...or what you are doing.

A real man could care less what other women other guys are doing. He doesn't CARE what is going on. He just focuses on himself...and getting the girl he wants..

But you do...

You're overanalyzing..when you could have just went up to a girl and talked to her.

Instead of wasting your time..pondering..you could have thought to yourself, "I don't give a shyt what's happening, I'm going to talk to that girl."

During this whole time you were making this post...and wondering about that fat man...you could have had a different story..if you didn't give a shyt and talked to a girl that you liked....

What are you hoping to get out of this post?
What were you hoping to get out of this post?

An explanation?
An answer?
An opinion?
A fact?
A theory?
A bunch of useless lies.
None of that shyt will help you.

Do you think these people know what REALLY happened?
Do you think I know what REALLY happened?

Why are you wasting your time?

Forget that...and go and approach that girl you like.

Don't post assumptions and analysis and hypothetical situations.

*** that shyt.

Just go out there and DO IT!!!!!

[vi_pn_babe25]

But seriously...maybe they have alot in common...maybe he let himself go after they hooked up...point is:who cares-just be yourself, because (hopefully) people like each other for who they are and not what they are on the outside.

[dice4]

I love the input you all have given. I've learned from all of you and I thank you all so I assume that ther is no need for physical attraction?

[ronnieromance]

OP, it sounds like you are just too busy being a hater and wondering why...Ever notice that sometimes really pretty women grow up and suck at being people?

Like, they've had their asses kissed for so long, they never actually had to develop a personality? I'm sure you've dated and been dissed by them. We all have. It's like a rite of passage.

Well, some people have the opposite experience. They had to actually develop one. This is why apparantly ugly guys can get pretty women. It happens the same way for the fairer sex, but your question was this particular match up. It's called game, in certain circles. As for the mismatch in evening wear..Well, some guys just never get the fashion thing.

I think you should just jump into the dating pool. WebDate is a great place to start.

-R-

[typical]

Its all in your head. Truly. What you cant wrap your mind around is EXACTLY what was intended. Honestly.

Not saying that ALL women are like this, but I have known a couple that actually told me the real reason they are going out with fatty farmer, and I also heard Fatty Farmers side too:

The hot girls pick the ugliest, rattiest men because they think that those fat, ratty men would never dare to cheat on them. Because its clear that they could get any man they want, but they chose fat ratty. They know it, the man knows it. Its a super confidence boost. But its born from an overbloated ego and desire to be admired and looked at above anyone else. Those women KNOW that when they are seen in public with fat ratty, everyone else is scratching their heads, trying to wrap their mind around the logic of it. And those women LOVE it, it feeds their warped ego, and gives them a charge, makes them feel even more beautiful.

But here is something those women dont understand:

Fat Ratty can and will cheat. Because he has now recieved status, and knows damn well that if he can get her, he can get other hot women. The other hot women will go out with him for the same reason listed above, or because those women have already sized up his hot women and decided there must be something special about him if she went out with him.

That is just what I have been told and witnessed for myself. Not necessarily my personal opinion, I am just relaying the facts.