[francescaerika]

me and my ex were together for 14 months. it was real love. my first love. we had our ups and downs. but one night, i cheated on him.. with his friend.. it didnt mean anything but i guess i did it coz of the lack of intimacy in our relationship. i regretted it. but i didnt tell him because we were having problems and i thought itd be over anyways. but i felt bad about it. well, things got so much better for us. like everything was perfect and i realized. hey i realllllly love this guy and i want to marry him someday! so this is 2 months after "what happened". i read a book that was talking about telling your partner everything and every secret makes you and him grow apart. so i decided to tell him. he tripped out. at first, he wanted to try to work things out. but a week later, he changed his mind.

we were still kinda friends. actually, we had sex about 2 weeks after the breakup. he said maybe we will get back together later on in our lives.

3 weeks after the breakup, i find out hes going to prom with this girl that he was seeing before me and him got together. see, the thing is, when we were together, he always acted kinda different around her so i thought he still liked her and i got jealous but he swore that he doesnt think shes pretty at all. anyways, i got REAL mad coz it seems like he just lied to me that he wasnt attracted to her at all before. so i hit him. and after that he got SO mad at me and never wanted to talk to me again.

the whole time after we broke up, i was partying like crazy, i thought i was over him, deep inside my heart i knew i loved him but i thought ive moved on. and its been 6 weeks. i started thinking about him, seeing him in my dreams and crying over him like how i did when we just broke up. i realized that i never really stopped loving him.. and i would do anything to get him back.

people say that he has NO feelings for me at all. and that hurts. but i have some doubts because i know him. he tells people a different story than how he really feels. im confused coz he said he loves me about 3 weeks ago.

what do i do? i dont wanna let go. hes really the love of my life. and i wanna know if he still loves me..

[Brittanyjean06]

I'm sure you love him alot, but think about how he feels...I'm sure alot of thoughts are going through his head " could she ever do this again", " how can you love someone when you cheat on them " and so on.

Well some people just naturally act different to most people out of shyness and what not. Your just going to have to give it time this time, because what you did had its conaequences and some people aren't gonna deal with that or put up with cheating !

When fighting with my now ex, I really just made up BUll Sh*t to his friends just to make them think I was over him, and thats what people do to hide their feelings..

He might come back, he might not...your just going to have to wait and see

maybe you should write him a letter telling him how sorry you are for hurting him and doing this, It is going to take time for him to build back trust if he even wants to get back with you!