I dated a girl in an LDR for about six months. We moved closer together and broke up about 3 months after that. We maintained a little contact and one day she decided she wanted to try again. After that we dated for about a year. The first break-up was hard on both of us, the second one I think we both realized that we just weren't right for each other.
Yup, happened to me. While we were in a relationship everything was on his terms, he took me for granted, broke every promise he ever made me and generally was the worst case of 'double standards' I have ever came across.
So I decided to leave. He pretended he didn't care and showed me no concern when he knew I'd lost everything while also having to cope with a bereavement of a parent at the same time. He made out to be doing fine and joined internet dating sites within no time, which pretty much devastated me (the more so because when we were still together he told me I wasn't to do that if we were to split up!). I never felt so betrayed in my whole life.
After all that I cut him out of my life.
A year later, apparently having discovered the grass is not greener on the other side, he tries to get in touch with me through a friend. All of a sudden wanting to explain his rotten behaviour at the time of the split.
Yeah right.
Needless to say I let him know I wasn't interested but wished him the best.
Still can't believe what an incredible fool that man turned out to be.
Why are you asking? Thinking of getting back in touch with an ex yourself or hoping an ex will get back in touch with you?
Yep - I went 8 months and he started calling again, driving by my house. He dumped me. I actually let him come back (huge mistake) and now we're broken up again.
They always come back right when you've gotten over them. It's like they have radar.
Bizarrely I've not heard anything about my ex since feb, didn't know if she was still living here or dating etc, didn't want to know.
Then on saturday, I get an sms off my buddy who is in his local store and he has seen her, aparrently loads of make up and hanging off some 6ft rugby player, he texts me to let me know this, apparently she kept looking at him but didn't smile or say anything. It seriously doesn't bother me in the slightest now, good luck to her if she's happy, although I still want nothing to do with her. Then this evening our local sports team lose, and I get a group text from her saying its a shame we lost... I didn't have her number anymore but she signed it...
I agree why do they do **** like this? I ignored it and deleted it instantly of course!
We had split before but it didnt last long, then we split again and 3 months went by, i couldnt honestly say i was over her, i love her now as much as i did when we first met, anyhoo i was in a pub one night with friends when i sensed her, i swear to god i felt her before i saw her and i turned to the bar and there she was, my legs turned to jelly and my heart pounded but i made out i hadnt seen her,
She was with a friend, they got their drinks and started walking towards where i was, she saw me and stopped dead in her tracks, then went to the other end of the pub, but as the evening wore on she moved closer and closer untill she was almost stood next to me, i ignored her,
a couple of hours went by and then she left, but the next night my phone rang at midnight and it was her in tears, she came round, we made up and everything was great, untill last wed when she suddenly got cold feet and said she needed a two week break, so the moral is , hell i dont know loves a weird mother, hang in there if you want to, else dont and move on, im hangin in, i know she loves me, and i love her so il keep playin, after all ya got to be init to winit, duno if this ramble is of any use to ya but after 3 yrs my advice is if its worth havin its worth fighting for.
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We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars. Oscar Wilde
Some ex's do come back later, people say if they haven't spoken to you this long they never will, but I hear stories all the time of the ex popping up
I guess I am still in hope to, its hard
Damn when I read all these stories about ex's popping up. I begin to wonder It hasn't happened to me..something must be wrong with me that mine hasn't even sent one word. Then again, he was a scab after all.. so I need to keep reminding myself why do I would I want him to pop up?
Hey its me britt! sorry I attempted to login in too many times with the wrong password!
Not so well choclate boy, I just look at it like this....." this is a relapse and I will get past this stage to.
I guess this will just take a while and the hope I have will one day vanish but for now there is nothing I can do just get my self up and do what I gotta do!
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yep after 3 months
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