OK, so me and this guy I used to work with

started hanging out outside of work. We both

really liked each other and had fooled around a

couple times but had no real commitment to each

other. We had talked about starting a

relationship a couple times and we both agreed

that we wanted to have one once we got to know

each other a little better.

He would call me every night when he got off work

and we would talk for hours. We were did this and

hung out on occasion for about a month (still

with no real commitment). His phone calls went

from every night to every other night, if that.

Then I went on vacation and called him once long

distance. He seemed like he didn't really wanna

talk to me. When I got back I tried to call him

every night for about a week, he never picked up

his phone (and yes, I think he does have caller

ID).

Later that week I found out from a mutual friend

that he had a crush on some other girl from his

summer school class and he wanted to ask her out!

I also found out that he had been spreading

rumors about me. Things like I had given him head

under our bosses desk. I was furious, as you can

imagine. I haven't talk to him or seen him since.

I definitely want revenge but I really have no

desire to talk to him ever again. If anyone has

any suggestions or advice it would be greatly

appreciated. Thanks.

-Sandy

That is pretty horrible stuff. How anyone could be so heartless is beyond me. I am going to assume that you are fairly young (summer school) and that you have not had that much experience with relationships... (just a guess) I would have to say that I believe this person is just plain immature. Unfortunatly when guys don't know how to handle situations, they use the only tactic they know... that is to be a jerk. I am sure that initally he didn't want to hurt you... but as time wore on, and you kept calling, he used his self defense IF SHE HATES ME, SHE WILL LEAVE ME ALONE!!! You know what I mean? I understand that you are hurt, believe me sister, I have been there. But, do you really want to waste your precious breath on this person.. is he really worth your time after what he has done? I know that it is hard... but the best defense to have is act like it doesn't bother you. If he sees that he can't get to you, eventually he will leave you alone. Don't worry, his time will come!!! Good Luck

[Tony T]

You are one lucky lady to be away from this guy, to see his true colors, to see just what kind of guy he was before you got too involved with him.

No good purposed can be achieved by seeking revenge. Any rumors you may spread about him will easily be traced to you. The best revenge you can get is show him you are a far superior person by just moving on and leaving him to his own devices in making a fool of himself. He is a scumbag not worth your time or continued thoughts.

And please don't shoot him. The state you live in may have laws against that.