[Distracted]

Has anyone tried therapy after getting back with an ex? My ex and I hooked up over the weekend after 6 months apart... I’m not sure if it really means he wants to get back together, or even if he did, if that's what I would want, but I know I can't just get back in the relationship. We've already had two real break-ups where we went months without talking. Also my concern is that when we were dating we didn't communicate well, he has commitment issues, and I'm passive aggressive. So perhaps its time to be rational and hang-up the towel on this one, but I just wondered if anyone had sucess with counseling?

[Pyro]

Originally Posted by Distracted

Has anyone tried therapy after getting back with an ex? My ex and I hooked up over the weekend after 6 months apart... I’m not sure if it really means he wants to get back together, or even if he did, if that's what I would want, but I know I can't just get back in the relationship. We've already had two real break-ups where we went months without talking. Also my concern is that when we were dating we didn't communicate well, he has commitment issues, and I'm passive aggressive. So perhaps its time to be rational and hang-up the towel on this one, but I just wondered if anyone had sucess with counseling?

I have tried counseling but unfortunately it did not work. She was not willing to try it out. We had major trust issues and the counselor had suggested a few things, but she was unwilling to comply. She probably had more things that she was hiding. In order for it to work, both you and your S.O. must be willing to do what it takes at all costs.

[bootlegga]

I offered to do it with EX as a way of reconciling our issues, but she wasn't interested. So I went by myself instead and worked out a lot of issues.

I know myself better and I have a good idea why things didn't work out. Now, if she does come back in the future, I'll be standing on solid ground and know what has to happen for 'us' to be a proper couple again. If she doesn't come back, then at least I've gained insight into my own pysche and feel much more confident and stronger than before.