Anyway...I've met this girl a few months ago from a girl I was dating. She is the girl I was dating best friend.
Anyway some how we ended up liking each other but I never expressed my feelings because she 'had' a boyfriend but they splited up. And she told me she liked me for a long time and was suprise I didn't realize it.
She would always tell me to hang out and always complimanted me. I thought she was just being friendly in nature.
Well about 2 weeks ago she told me how she really felt and told me she liked me a lot...
So during that week we've been on the phone every night and we ended up going out last thurs. The date went great... dinner/movies/stroll by the bay... the very next day was her best friends birthday party and I was invited as well...
I went and something came up and I had to leave in a hurry and didn't really get a chance to tell her(the girl I am seeing/dating)... but I did tell the birthday girl I had to do something...anyway I think she got a little bit upset(the girl I am seeing/dating) that I didn't tell her...
anyway we talked on the phone for a little about it and everything seems to be cleared up. Alright this is when the strange things start to happen which leads till now...
She said she was going to call me later on that night but instead she texted me saying she is going shopping and will call me later...that never happened...so i thought maybe she was tired and she would call me tomorrow(sunday)...alright that didn't happen so I gave her a call (sunday night) but caught the voicemail instead. I left a msg but she never
called...
So Monday rolls by no call...I figured she wanted to space so I didn't call..
Tuesday afternoon she gives me a ring and said she was really tired from work and she wanted some time to herself...she just started working at a hospital for a few months only which I understand why she was tired. Anyway she was going home while she called me and said she would give me a call later on that night... that never happened...so I figure she fell
asleep from being tired...
So today she gives me a text and tells me she will call me tonight but still no call...
Is she playing games? Not interested anymore? Maybe she is truely just busy and tired?
whats up?
Any advice would be great...
Last edited by maxima888; 10th May 2006 at 11:25 PM..
This is almost the exact situation I'm in with the girl I'm dating. She works long hours at a demanding job so I don't know whether to take her not calling me back as disinterest or just her job. It almost makes me wonder if we're dating the same girl. What part of the country are you from?
Anyway, I've concluded that her interest in me and whether we're going to advance from dating into being a couple will become clear only with time. There's nothing I can do at this point to figure out where she stands. If I bring up the whole not calling me thing, I come off as desperate (which I'm not) and perhaps too serious. All I can really do is to try to hang out with her again and gauge her interest in me based on how she interacts with me.
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Yea I don't want to come off looking too desperate also...
I mean I text her back stating I understand and its cool you know... but it does make me wonder...
And your totally correct with the only time can tell theory.
Hopefully this is the case..
Phew! I was seriously thinking it might have been the same girl for a second. Yeah, there's nothing you can do to find out the truth sometimes except to wait.
How does your girl sound when you actually talk to her? Does she sound happy to hear from you? The thing that throws me off about mine is that when we talk, she sounds really enthusiastic and happy. But then invariably the "I'll call you tomorrow" followed by no call happens.
Whatever. I've got other things in my life to worry about right now. If she wants to miss the MD train, her loss. There are thousands of hot girls out there waiting to get on, I'm sure.
Yah MD's right when he said that it just takes time. This may sound irrelavant but does she possibily have a few guy friends? If so she may be trying to leave her options open. At least for me I have alot of guy friends so I try to talk to them all as much as I can, but usually I spread it out because I don't want to lead a guy on by talking to him everyday. It even goes for a guy I do like because I don't want to come off as needy. BUT this guy that I've known for awhile kept calling me wanting to hang out, and I kept kinda blowing him off because I could tell he wanted to be more than just friends, (he told my friend) so while I still wanted to leave my options open, I would just talk to him every once in awhile, to keep him just in case, lol. WELL anyways I finally told him that I want to start seeing him and hanging out with him more, because I see potential there. Luckily he stuck around. Ok so it might seem like I'm playing games but I just want you aware of what girls act sometimes. Although, she might really be busy with work that's understandable. But texting you and telling you that she'll call is kinda iffy. As long as she calls you back the next day than I wouldn't worry about it, but if she texts you and says she'll call tha night and then calls you say almost a week later than I would stop calling her and wait for her to come to you, because like in my case, if the girl really likes you she'll come around, and stick to her word.
Well I hope I didn't ramble on, probably did but I just wanted to give you an example I guess, and plus I'm really tired so forgive me But keep us posted!
Well what if she doesn't call sometimes but will always at least text to say good night or whatever? What's that say? She's got options but not as many as you? Haha.
Well what if she doesn't call sometimes but will always at least text to say good night or whatever? What's that say? She's got options but not as many as you? Haha.
MD- you're funny lol I'd say that's cute if she texts you to say goodnight, I'm sure if she did have alot of guy friends she wouldn't be texting all them goodnight, at least I don't, and plus that would get expensive lol I hope you're girl comes around, but like you said it's her loss huh?
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Who really knows--she is a girl after all. If you want to guess why a girl is behaving a certain way, you basically write down 4-5 random explanations, put them up on the wall, and throw a dart. Whichever reason the dart hits is just as good of a guess than analyzing and trying to interpret female behavior. My explanations are:
1. She'd dating other guys
2. She's caught up in work
3. She has multiple personality disorder
4. She's confused about her sexual orientation
5. She's got the hots for me and she's afraid of what will happen if we hang out again
I threw a dart and it landed on #5. Kinda what I suspected.
Who really knows--she is a girl after all. If you want to guess why a girl is behaving a certain way, you basically write down 4-5 random explanations, put them up on the wall, and throw a dart. Whichever reason the dart hits is just as good of a guess than analyzing and trying to interpret female behavior. My explanations are:
1. She'd dating other guys
2. She's caught up in work
3. She has multiple personality disorder
4. She's confused about her sexual orientation
5. She's got the hots for me and she's afraid of what will happen if we hang out again
I threw a dart and it landed on #5. Kinda what I suspected.
NICE!
To the OP: As I read your post, I initially thought that she's playing games. After I finished reading, I'm not so sure and like what these guys have been telling you...only time will tell. Hope it works out.
"Why do you build me up (build me up) Buttercup, baby
Just to let me down (let me down) and mess me around
And then worst of all (worst of all) you never call, baby
When you say you will (say you will) but I love you still
I need you (I need you) more than anyone, darlin'
You know that I have from the start
So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart
"I'll be over at ten", you told me time and again
But you're late, I wait around and then (bah dah dah)
I run to the door, I can't take any more
It's not you, you let me down again
(Hey, hey, hey!) Baby, baby, try to find
(Hey, hey, hey!) A little time, and I'll make you happy
(Hey, hey, hey!) I'll be home
I'll be beside the phone waiting for you
Ooo-oo-ooo, ooo-oo-ooo
Why do you build me up (build me up) Buttercup, baby
Just to let me down (let me down) and mess me around
And then worst of all (worst of all) you never call, baby
When you say you will (say you will) but I love you still
I need you (I need you) more than anyone, darlin'
You know that I have from the start
So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart
You were my toy but I could be the boy you adore
If you'd just let me know (bah dah dah)
Although you're untrue, I'm attracted to you all the more
Why do I need you so
(Hey, hey, hey!) Baby, baby, try to find
(Hey, hey, hey!) A little time and I'll make you happy
(Hey, hey, hey!) I'll be home
I'll be beside the phone waiting for you
Ooo-oo-ooo, ooo-oo-ooo
Why do you build me up (build me up) Buttercup, baby
Just to let me down (let me down) and mess me around
And then worst of all (worst of all) you never call, baby
When you say you will (say you will) but I love you still
I need you (I need you) more than anyone, darlin'
You know that I have from the start
So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart
I-I-I need you-oo-oo more than anyone, baby
You know that I have from the start
So build me up (build me up) Buttercup, don't break my heart"
This song's at the end of the movie, "There's Something About Mary." Such a funny movie.
MD-perhaps did you watch that movie lastnight on cable? lol
Haha. No, was it on? That movie's so hilarious, too bad I missed it. I remember watching in the theater and I couldn't stop laughing. The only movie that's as funny is "The 40 Year Old Virgin."
Haha. No, was it on? That movie's so hilarious, too bad I missed it. I remember watching in the theater and I couldn't stop laughing. The only movie that's as funny is "The 40 Year Old Virgin."
Yah it was on FX lastnight lol and yes it is pretty funny I have it on dvd. But I haven't seen "the 40 year old virgin" yet maybe I'll go rent it today lol.
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