I've been dating this new guy for about two months. He is in general a very decent man. He has a very well-paying job, however, he gives me the impression of being pratical to a fault. In fact, he even said that about himself. The only thing we do outside of watching DVDs at his house, is going out to a movie (twice). He would only go to a game or a concert if they are free. He even brought me a book of coupons and told me to pick from them for free tickets to a game, otherwise, he made it clear that he will not buy them for us to go. I am sure he makes more than enough to afford those tickets, the way he is makes me feel cheap. Am I being unreasonable here?
I've been dating this new guy for about two months. He is in general a very decent man. He has a very well-paying job, however, he gives me the impression of being pratical to a fault. In fact, he even said that about himself. The only thing we do outside of watching DVDs at his house, is going out to a movie (twice). He would only go to a game or a concert if they are free. He even brought me a book of coupons and told me to pick from them for free tickets to a game, otherwise, he made it clear that he will not buy them for us to go. I am sure he makes more than enough to afford those tickets, the way he is makes me feel cheap. Am I being unreasonable here?
Sorry to say but this is just a sneak preview if you are to get serious with him.
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I've been dating this new guy for about two months. He is in general a very decent man. He has a very well-paying job, however, he gives me the impression of being pratical to a fault. In fact, he even said that about himself. The only thing we do outside of watching DVDs at his house, is going out to a movie (twice). He would only go to a game or a concert if they are free. He even brought me a book of coupons and told me to pick from them for free tickets to a game, otherwise, he made it clear that he will not buy them for us to go. I am sure he makes more than enough to afford those tickets, the way he is makes me feel cheap. Am I being unreasonable here?
A4A is right. Men always spend the most money and effort when you first start dating. If it's this bad now, it will only get worse. Soon he will be telling you what you should spend your money on. Girl if I where you, I would put my running shoes on and sprit away as fast as I could. sorry if that is harsh.
Huge difference between being frugal and fruckin tacky.
I must agree. I'm all for being smart with money, but he sounds cheap beyond reason. It's way to early in the relationship for this sort of behavior. I also think it might be a red flag, he might be kind of controlling. But more likely than not, he's a Partypooper McCheapass.
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I must agree. I'm all for being smart with money, but he sounds cheap beyond reason. It's way to early in the relationship for this sort of behavior. I also think it might be a red flag, he might be kind of controlling. But more likely than not, he's a Partypooper McCheapass.
yeah buy the cheaper concert tickets but to not go unless they are free.....
Do yourself a favor and ask him about it. Be blunt. Offer to pay your own way to upgraded events and see if he is too cheap to pay his own.. my bet he buys himself stuff but does not want to invest in your dates.
He might be testing to make sure you're not a golddigger...
Do YOU pay for any of the dates, or even offer????????
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Boy, didn't you get the memo??? Girls don't pay for dates until 6 months into the relationship, and then it's only once and awhile to be nice.
That's not true. Almost all the girls I've been out with have paid for something at one time or another. I'll get dinner and she'll get drinks at a bar or whatever. But maybe that's because I date girls with jobs.
IMHO, the OP has no right to complain unless she's paying for some of the dates. The guy should crack open the wallet a little more, so it's not all her fault, but I was wondering what the flip side of this is.
Boy, didn't you get the memo??? Girls don't pay for dates until 6 months into the relationship, and then it's only once and awhile to be nice.
Damn I ****ed up then! Please send the memos directly to me from this point on.
My H is a cheap ass bastard too. When dating (if you could call it "dates") I bought dinner 80% of the time or we just probably never would have went out
Run from cheap bastards....... they steal your pudding later down the road too!
Tan has a good point, I didn't think of it that way. If it's been two months and you haven't paid for ANYTHING, well, I'd probably shut down the money train as well.
Pudding thieves will graduate into cottage cheese thieves. Oh yeah.
It's doesn't even sound like he has taken her out at all. So why should she start forking over the cash, when he hasn't even tried to play like he is trying.
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