...as of tomorrow since he shipped out. I still haven't heard from him and I don't understand why.
Does anyone have any experience with this? I'm not suppose to disclose where he is, what he's doing, etc..but I think he'd be ok with me saying "military" work. So it's not as though he's somewhere where it's easy to write, and he's got no access to a phone or computer for contact. However, he had said they're supposed to write family/friends within 3 days so we'd have an address for contact. Because of the nature of what he's doing, there was no exact address to give me before leaving. He (obviously) had mine but I have these horrible nightmares that he forgot it or lost it or something and won't be able to contact me at all during the 6+ months he's gone.
But 2 weeks! Two weeks of no contact!! I'm going nuts here wondering how he's doing, not being able to talk to him and discuss our days. I'm trying so hard to keep my days busy with work and personal interests, have even joined a new group that's an interest I've had for years but never taken the time or resources to look into it. But that only goes so far when the sun goes down and you're left with only your thoughts and worrying mind.
I can't hardly sleep at night because our routine was always talking for several hours before we both went to bed and now I have no one to talk to, laugh with, make me feel better about a bad day. I don't know what he's up to or what he's thinkin....so I just lay in bed thinking about him and wishing he wasn't so far away.
I don't know that there's a point to this post...just a little depressed tonight, was hoping someone could lend an ear...thanks for reading.
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...as of tomorrow since he shipped out. I still haven't heard from him and I don't understand why.
Does anyone have any experience with this? I'm not suppose to disclose where he is, what he's doing, etc..but I think he'd be ok with me saying "military" work. So it's not as though he's somewhere where it's easy to write, and he's got no access to a phone or computer for contact. However, he had said they're supposed to write family/friends within 3 days so we'd have an address for contact. Because of the nature of what he's doing, there was no exact address to give me before leaving. He (obviously) had mine but I have these horrible nightmares that he forgot it or lost it or something and won't be able to contact me at all during the 6+ months he's gone.
But 2 weeks! Two weeks of no contact!! I'm going nuts here wondering how he's doing, not being able to talk to him and discuss our days. I'm trying so hard to keep my days busy with work and personal interests, have even joined a new group that's an interest I've had for years but never taken the time or resources to look into it. But that only goes so far when the sun goes down and you're left with only your thoughts and worrying mind.
I can't hardly sleep at night because our routine was always talking for several hours before we both went to bed and now I have no one to talk to, laugh with, make me feel better about a bad day. I don't know what he's up to or what he's thinkin....so I just lay in bed thinking about him and wishing he wasn't so far away.
I don't know that there's a point to this post...just a little depressed tonight, was hoping someone could lend an ear...thanks for reading.
Is he going to Iraq? Sorry I just saw the part of not disclosing location
This has got to be hard. I work with a few girls that are married or engaged to marines. They all said they did not hear from their SO for the first few days, couple of weeks. Something about them being in a holding area outside the base, getting situated etc.
He absolutely is not allowed to carry his cell phone. I've been on sites for people that are in and families of what he's doing, and where he is does NOT allow that.
I'm quite sure he's been in contact with his wife. Why is it that many OW think they are to come first? This is a matter of priorities and if he has an hour a day for free time, the family is obviously going to get written to first. I think this is where a lot of MM/OW issues arise. They think they should come first, and this isn't the case. He's already got a family. They come first.
For what it's worth, we are not saying he is a top secret agent or something. We felt it would be safest to not disclosing where he is and exactly what he's doing for the simple reason that LS is a really large community of people and you never know who is reading the site. We didn't want some family member or friend of his to see a post and think "hmmmm." Just too much of a risk and a loss of privacy. It would not allow us to open up if we were worried someone might recognize who it was.
If he's military he is absolutely not allowed to carry a cell phone. My ex husband went to afghanistan and he was allowed a phone call from some makeshift device the military set up themselves once every two weeks. He would stand in a line of hundreds of soldiers to make a call. Mail was VERY slow. Some weeks I would get nothing. Then in a day it would be three because mail got held up from way the heck over there. Don't fret. It's a waiting game. I picked up cross-stitching as a hobby...lol.
We felt it would be safest to not disclosing where he is and exactly what he's doing for the simple reason that LS is a really large community of people and you never know who is reading the site.
Obvisouly if they are on the front line they can't and when they don't have service they can't ..
But they can and do use cell phones in the military.. they even use them in combat zones..
I do know that the military has been cracking down on the use while in trucks and cars while driving vehicl
AT&T has even installed payphones in IRAQ and gouges the soldiers to use them to call home
My co-worker does say she gets a call from her fiance everyday. They also have email and most of them spend their off time emailing family and friends.
He absolutely is not allowed to carry his cell phone. I've been on sites for people that are in and families of what he's doing, and where he is does NOT allow that.
I'm quite sure he's been in contact with his wife. Why is it that many OW think they are to come first? This is a matter of priorities and if he has an hour a day for free time, the family is obviously going to get written to first. I think this is where a lot of MM/OW issues arise. They think they should come first, and this isn't the case. He's already got a family. They come first.
Wow, this made me a little sad. While I applaud you for having a realistic viewpoint on the life of an OW, it makes me sad that you are fully aware that you come second - - and accept those crumbs as all that you will get.
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