[Roarz]

I've come a long way and learned a lot through this breakup and while I don't think I've made any more mistakes I wanna come here and make sure I don't.

Anyway, the short is my ex got a new bf a few months after me. It was long distance from the very beginning and lasted 5 months, with him breaking up with her recently. I still really want her back and it's been quite a long time so full NC isn't really in effect. What I mean is, she will contact me about once a month and I will reply with a bit of small talk, 5 min conversation, nothing else. She never seems to want our lives to seperate completely. I guess this section warants a small question here: Should I not even be replying to her at all? (My advice given for this was not to burn bridges)

Now that they've broken up, I obviously got a better chance then when they were together. It's been 7 months since we've been broken up. What I want to know is, if there is any possible chance, how should I handle it? Some places say just stay out of her life and she will come to you if she really wants to and others say to ask her out to coffee or something and see if you can spark something up again, show her a different you. So, advice?

[ginger1]

Looking from the outside in, I would say that you should let her initiate any sort of dating. Let her call you and keep conversations the way they have been, short and casual. Although her relationship has ended with this other guy, don't use that as a way back into her life. She's probably hurting right now and you don't want her transferring any feelings that she had for him to you, just so she can fill that void in her heart. Even though you dated before, you could still end up being a rebound guy. My advice is to give her some time to let this guy go. I went through a similar situation, but I was on the other side. I was the girl that was dumped and had an ex boyfriend that I was still friends with console me. I felt so rejected that when my ex was there to pick up the pieces, I tried to transfer the love I still had to the guy that was there which really got me confused.
I would suggest being there as a friend if you care. Don't jump right into things. Let her clear her head.
Be a friend to her and if things are meant to be, they will be.

Good Luck and I hope this helps,
Ginger