very shy but I still show interest....

longlegzs80 · 23rd April 2006, 10:40 PM

the guy who I like alot works at my workplace one day a week and I do what comes natural to me, I smile very big and sincere, I make some eye contact until I get nervous then look away, and I ask him how he is doing. To me he seems alittle shy too. He gives me eye contact until both of us meet eyes and we look away. He asks me how am I doing, as what seems to be a very friendly thing to do. But, I want more. I can't seem to get to know if he would like to get to know me more, or if he is just being friendly etc. I have books and looked through them on bodylanguage. One thing I do notice since I bring up body language is he always moves closer to me, not too close but a nice distant closeness which I like. I like to talk to him more but there isn't enough time to do that with others comming in and out of the office to pick up their paycheck. Another thing I notice is he always looks at me or looks in the same direction. Wondering what he is thinking.

When your in a brief situation when your trying to figure out whether a guy is into you or not, how are you able to tell? When I am having a very good day, be very bold and tell him he is HOT? If I say that, I would definitly start to blush in a good way and my smile would be very cute and sincere. Maybe then I would be able to tell a real reaction out of him.

Hey guys, what do you think of a girl who is bold, who can tell you that your HOT, or approach you and ask you out?

JohnM · 23rd April 2006, 11:00 PM

Christ, a girl that can approach guys let alone compliment them so strongly. More of you girls are needed

You have any friends the same? Send em my way

Seriously though, If you can approach him and are confident then go for it. What have you got to lose, If he indeed is shy then you'll have to wait for him to gain enough confidence to ask you, or you can find out sooner by asking him instead.

'Nothing ventured, nothing gained.'

longlegzs80 · 26th April 2006, 7:05 PM

I can have those days when I feel very good and confident or not, but what I mentioned in my thread, does he sound like he is interested, or am I just blind in thinking he might be interested but really not. I just don't want to make an arse out of myself, or come on to him too strong where I scare him away. I want to make my move on him tomorrow when I see him, come help is needed. Please and thank you in advance.

JohnM · 26th April 2006, 8:25 PM

The initial signs look good, he seems keen to talk to you. It seems safe to ask him, if you dont how else are you going to find out? You'll just end up doing what you're currently donig for a long time until he asks or you do.

Another thing you could look at for a little sign is him mirroring your body movements and stance. This is just a little extra encouragement but its not always spot on. Just get into a conversation again and then ask him while you both feel comfortable. You'll let him know how you feel and i'm sure it'll go okay.

longlegzs80 · 26th April 2006, 9:53 PM

I feel so dumb asking the same question all the time in other threads but I am really oblivious to know if he is really interested or not in me. John I like to thank you for repling and being such a helpful advice. Thanks again.

longlegzs80 · 29th April 2006, 10:34 PM

So, I seen my hotness yesturday morning and he was telling several people who came to pick up their paychecks from him that a new guy would be here next week to do his job for the day. The thing is when he came to give me my paycheck, he said to me that my name is pretty easy to remember. He just thinks the new guy is going to have a really hard to doing the job. But am I reading into this like he has me on his mind or something or what?

longlegzs80 · 29th April 2006, 10:49 PM

Am I reading too into this with the guy I am into?