Inexperienced in serious love & now she has another!
Hello all
I've only had 2 serious relationships in my life, i'm in my late 20's, i loved my ex, but health problems showed she wasn't there for me when i was ill, anxiety/panic etc!
She has had lots of relationships, 2 kids & is strong!
She said we split (nov'05) because of incompatability, but we were most of the time, we played sports, we went restaurants, we cooked, walked & did lots of things, but i was emotional & didn't come up to her expectations domesticaly & that caused friction & anxiety within me!
I just looked on her 'msn spaces' & saw pics that i took of her & one that i didn't saying, 'here's one for my boyfriend' & it was of a bird on a lake, something she likes, ornathology!
It has upset me, to know that most of those pics are taken by me & one is for her new bf. It makes me tearful & feel sick. I am emotional & it affects me so much.
I think of us & she is going on.
Why is it some like me have weak heart & hurt & she can go on. I wouldn't have thought unless i saw this, now i want her cuddles & i am so upset! & imagining her with someone, whoever!
CG
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I know mate
You are right, just is so hard!
I just imagine what we had, it hurts to think of her with another, thats normal, especially when i just found out & it hits home.
Jeez knows what i'll do if i see them together, i walk past her Uni at same time as she goes in & if i saw them together kissing as we did, would hurt, i can't help my feelings, i just picture them & it hurts.
We were 2 years together, i can see them doing as we did!
It hurts, although i've seen girls, it's just been superficial!
Maybe looking for the one, i dunno. I shouldn't be such an emotional guy.
You get me!
CG
I know mate
You are right, just is so hard!
I just imagine what we had, it hurts to think of her with another, thats normal, especially when i just found out & it hits home.
Jeez knows what i'll do if i see them together, i walk past her Uni at same time as she goes in & if i saw them together kissing as we did, would hurt, i can't help my feelings, i just picture them & it hurts.
We were 2 years together, i can see them doing as we did!
It hurts, although i've seen girls, it's just been superficial!
Maybe looking for the one, i dunno. I shouldn't be such an emotional guy.
You get me!
CG
Here's an excercise for you.
When you start thinking of your ex have three things in mind that you like to do and force yourself to think about that instead.
Go hang out with friends.
Forgive the ex, then delete her MSN page address and remove any traces of her. Reminders of her are not helping you heal and move on.
Forgive her so you can cut any ties that bind you to her. In that way you will find yourself letting go much easier.
And think of this: "Why should I give a damn about someone that doesn't want to be with me?"
It makes me tearful & feel sick. I am emotional & it affects me so much.. .now i want her cuddles & i am so upset!
CG
Is this a serious post? If it is, I've gotta tell you dude, most girls don't want the type of guy you're portraying yourself to be. I mean, it's pretty instinctual & normal for a girl to want a guy who can protect her & provide for the family. That's kinda hard to do if you're the type to start crying if some ******* is threatening your girl, family, etc.
It's funny because girls always *say* they want a guy who's sensitive, emotional, etc. but in the end, they actually prefer a guy who's more the protypical man's man. The problem is some guys actually buy into what they hear and end up being in your position.
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"A fool knows no fear. A hero shows no fear."
Thats how i am normally, i just see it as a normal reaction to feel this way about someone you were engaged to & planned a future with.
Seeing them with someone else & sharing what we had!
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