[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

OK...someone asked me what my new last mane was going to be and I told them that I was keeping mine with no hyphenation. They looked at me like I had 3 heads. Is it wrong for me wanting to keep my name? It's such a cool last name and his sounds silly with my first name. And with his added...its the longest name in history. He doesn't mind me keeping my last name. But I feel like...this is how it should be, Mr. and Mrs whatever. What do you guys think?

[blind_otter]

I never took my exH's last name. It was easy when we split up.

But I noticed when I was doing taxes this year that it was confusing when the wife had a different last name. That's the only thing I noticed.

[NTB]

if i was getting married i'd want my wife to take my name......just my change here

[a4a]

Man I got beat the **** outta for this same thread not too long ago!

I still have not taken his last name and recently I was sent a thank you from some coworkers that addressed us as Mr. and Mrs. My last name Simply because I made it clear that I was keeping my last name as they were part of our wedding ect. Well known in my field so I will not ditch my last name. The hyphen thing would have just been stupid with the combo of our names....... WTF for anyway.

H is just fine with it, no problems.

However mail that comes with me listed under his last name still pisses me off

[tikigods]

Its been well over a year now and I haven't taken my husbands last name, its fun getting the mail to us right now since its almost always as combo of our names ;D

My big reasoning is I am lazy and don't want to deal with the hassle that is changing the last name, my mom has been remarried for like 6 years now and just this past month took her husbands last name ;D

Husband is fine iwth it, and he told me if his family wasn't so last name crazy he would just take mine ;D he likes it better (he even suggested we both just hyphanate our names)

[jerbear]

My view is:

• I did not adopt her as her guardian
• She is not my child
• She is my equal, till later that night, when I'm on top.
• Married her for her, name and all
• Saves money from changing stuff around
• Asians with hyphenated names? Think about it...
• She having an asian last name? Think about it...
• New name does not sound right
• Why bother reading this list?
• I still remember her maiden name
• Gives me another reason to "chase" her after marriage
• Don't care to much about last names
• Why are you still reading?

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Originally Posted by jerbear

My view is:

• I did not adopt her as her guardian
• She is not my child
• She is my equal, till later that night, when I'm on top.
• Married her for her, name and all
• Saves money from changing stuff around
• Asians with hyphenated names? Think about it...
• She having an asian last name? Think about it...
• New name does not sound right
• Why bother reading this list?
• I still remember her maiden name
• Gives me another reason to "chase" her after marriage
• Don't care to much about last names
• Why are you still reading?

HUH? What does asian have to do with this? Adopting?

[blind_otter]

Originally Posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue

HUH? What does asian have to do with this? Adopting?

jerbear is asian, doofus. why else would he mention it? Aside from random psychosis.

[bab]

Yeah, this type thread has gotten pretty heated in the past. It took me a very very long time to decide, but I'm taking his name and putting my maiden name as my middle name. For the next 4 years I'm going to use my full name in the professional world, and then stop using the middle name when it has become established that I'm the same person. And more importantly, I have a permanent job!

You should do what you and your fiance want. Don't worry about what other people think.

[ladyinwaiting]

I'm keeping my last name for work purposes, and adopting his for some personal matters. The nature of my career means I can't readily give up my last name, because I need the name recognition.

The change for personal reasons is mainly practicality - people will start using the "Mr and Ms X" and I couldn't be bothered correcting them. Plus, his last name is really cool. I will not abide being "Mrs [husband's first name] X" though. The first name stays. Any company addresses a letter to me like I'm some kind of lesser adjunct to the husband will instantly loose my business immediately.

[neek]

screw what other people think, do what you want to do, its your name, not theirs to have a say in, and if the hubby is fine, what's the problem?

[Curmudgeon]

My wife wanted to keep her last name for professional reasons and because she shared it with her daughters. However, it was her former married name and I wasn't having it. Thankfully, she agreed and since we were both in the same profession with name recognition and access in the same political circles, switching to my last name was a bit of a bump in the road, not a mountain. Initially she'd sign with "our" name and put her old last name in parentheses and after awhile, that was no longer necessary.

[whichwayisup]

He meant in the way that she is his equal. Like he kept his folks name, etc... So why should a woman (not his child) change her name. Atleast I hope that is what he meant.........

[magda]

I haven't changed my name yet, but I will eventually. I guess. Even though I like my name better. I don't care for my maiden middle name so I'm just going to take it out when I get around to changing my name. Once we have this baby we can be the "___ family" instead of me being the odd person in the family with the different name.

[Curmudgeon]

In time, your child will be thankful for that.