I was with my ex g/f for over 6 years and she then asked for time apart as she wasnt sure i was the one.

I handled it badly and chased my ex for about 4 weeks, (i basically remained accessible to her though i wasnt contacting her) and after constantly being given mixed messages, more bad than good, i was emotionally exhausted.

After finding this site i realised this is what i should have done from the beginning and at that time i decided to end the relationship and implement NC.

I am slowly getting my life back in order, and am slowly moving on, Im making sure i put myself first.

I dont know what the future holds for me and my ex though im not concerning myself with it either, im going out having fun and surrounding myself with friends and family while also meeting heaps of new people.

I'd like to thank you all for sharing your experiences.

[SuperMonk]

The first couple ex's I did a lot of chasing, I soon learned it wasn't worthwhile and if we did get together, she'd "disappear" on me soon after. I learn that it wasn't worth it and it's just better being alone and ignorant of whatever the ex is doing.

[hindsight]

once i quit looking into what she was doing i finally started to feel better. at first i thought if i stayed visible * she would feel how i did,i kept driving by at night and if her new boyfriends car wasnt there id think they werent together anymore,only to see the next time they were still together.its just self torture even though it feels like your doing the right thing,like everyone says stop thinking about the past ,move on(thats part sucks)and it does get easier every day,sorry babbling

[PlentyLV007]

Well I did the breaking up. I broke up a 5 year relationship and I didn't know what to do and what to expect since it was my first "real" relationship. My first love too. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Especially because it was a circle thing. Meaning we were all friends but, they were mostly his friends. So when I lost him, I lost his friends too. Then I had to start from scratch. New friends, new party places, and of course actually moved out of our love nest. Dealing w/ the memories was hard. I threw out everything that can possibly remind me of our relationship to be able to move on.

After a year I called him for closure. Not expecting him to call me, he did. We talked about everything for about 2 hours. We ended in good terms. I never saw him again, nor talked to him again.

I think I did pretty well. It hurt like hell. But hey we live and we learn.