Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
I'm having alot of trouble with my own insecurities about my appearance and this has been going on for a while but i have felt worse since i saw my boyfriend look at another girl. It was only a glance and iv'e only seen him do it maybe 3 times in our 1year and 5 month relationship, which i know is nothing compared to some guys...but it kills me and I feel insecure about myself, even though i know i'm attractive. He told me he was stupid for doing it and that he doesn't want to do it again because it hurts me. I dread the thought of it happening again and get anxious when i think there may be another pretty girl in the same vicinity as us.I think maybe if i was really skinny like i used to be i would feel better about myself, but my boyfriend always says your fine your alright.
Can anyone give me some advice on dealing with this
Guys are gonna look, people look in general, its human nature. Just because someone looks at another doesn't mean they like them or want to be with them etc. If you feel insecure and want to look the way you used to, then only you can do something about that. However, beauty is within side so you need to work on your insecurities from the inside out as well.
Jade
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No need to feel insecure if you both feel happy and satisfied in the relationship, let him look, he will respect you more if you aren't overly jealous and insecure, and it will keep you cloaser.
Just get it out of your mind and don't think about it. He has a right to take a look at the people passing by if that makes him happy. I look at pretty girls, guys, cars... too. It's a problem if he disrespectfully stares at them for a long time.
Is your BF perfectly handsome? What makes you think that YOU should be?
Having the feeling that you used to look thin and beautiful, but not anymore can be frustrating. I suggest you lose weight in order to raise your self-esteem. I also feel bad about myself when I gain 10-15 lbs. I feel fantastic and so self-confident when I am thin. Even my husband noticed that and told me that he is fine with my weight, but for my own's sake, I should feel good about my body and look the way I want to - and therefore lose a few lbs.
You've only caught him looking at other girls 3 times in the year+ that you've been together? Wow, what are you complaining about? If he's gawking at them that's one thing and you've got a right to feel a little upset or insecure but a simple glance is seriously nothing to complain about.
What goes through your head when you get these feelings? I imagine you start feeling like those girls are more attractive than you, he'd rather be with them, etc. The fact is, there will always be girls that are more attractive than you (especially as you get older.) Just try to remember that he's with you and not with these other girls. What more proof do you need that he's into you and not these hotties?
My ex would stare and make a total arse of himself staring at women not only was it rude and disrespectful to me but it was of the women he was staring at. It offended me that my spouse would think so little of women to think he could just oogle them..
My current guy will glance at a pretty lady and often make a comment about hair, eyes, smile whatever. At first because of my insecurities it scared the poo outta me that he was going to find someone better..and he said to me that there is no other woman he would want to be with...then I realized that you appreciate the beauty around you in whatever you see...it doesn't mean you want to jump them...lol
What goes through your head when you get these feelings? I imagine you start feeling like those girls are more attractive than you, he'd rather be with them, etc. The fact is, there will always be girls that are more attractive than you (especially as you get older.) ...
Oops sorry about that. I kinda assumed the poster was pretty young and was just trying to get a point across. Didn't mean to slight the more mature crowd on here. Older women can be hot too. Look at Demi Moore! (I'm not sure if that helped but you can't blame me for not trying.)
Oops sorry about that. I kinda assumed the poster was pretty young and was just trying to get a point across. Didn't mean to slight the more mature crowd on here. Older women can be hot too. Look at Demi Moore! (I'm not sure if that helped but you can't blame me for not trying.)
My current guy will glance at a pretty lady and often make a comment about hair, eyes, smile whatever. At first because of my insecurities it scared the poo outta me that he was going to find someone better..and he said to me that there is no other woman he would want to be with...then I realized that you appreciate the beauty around you in whatever you see...it doesn't mean you want to jump them...lol
But if your guy is commenting on the beauty of a hottie's ass, he might just want to jump her bones. The only way he might be able to get away with that is he speaks in a really haughty English accent and says something like, "I do say Winthorpe, the bottom on that lass is quite statuesque." Even then people might think he's an ass and they'd be right.
But if your guy is commenting on the beauty of a hottie's ass, he might just want to jump her bones. The only way he might be able to get away with that is he speaks in a really haughty English accent and says something like, "I do say Winthorpe, the bottom on that lass is quite statuesque." Even then people might think he's an ass and they'd be right.
MD
LOL if he wants to comment on some chic's butt he can go for it...because I know I am by far the hottest chic on the market..if he wants to jump her that's fine too..want and do are two different things...if he ever follows through and does jump her...well then his loss...
Hey no taking the mick outta the way english people talk!!!Im english!why do people always think english are posh it them films we sound nuffin like that lol
Hey no taking the mick outta the way english people talk!!!Im english!why do people always think english are posh it them films we sound nuffin like that lol
What's a mick? Well it's the way they always talk in movies so I assume that's how they talk in real life. If you think it's easy to make fun of how English people talk, look at us Americans. Hicks/rednecks are probably the easiest people to make fun of based on the way they talk.
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