My boyfriend of a year and a half is being so rude to me. The other night he tore me apart and said every little thing that pissed him off about me. I don't understand why he would do such a thing. He totally lashed out at me and then let me go. I don't know what to do or what to say. Why is he acting this way and what should I do. I love him very much, but he's so impossible. HELP!

[Tony T]

People tear other people down because they don't like themselves. Look into his background, his upbringing, his fulfillment in his job or schooling, etc. It sounds like he is extremely frustrated and has a very low self-esteem.

People who really like themselves go out of their way to help others be their best. When they criticize, they do it constructively.

Your boyfriend has a lot of problems that are coming up now, just as a volcano lies idle for years before erupting. If you can't do anything to help him...and there is little you can do because he must do it for himself...you'll have to either put up with his tantrums or move on.

If he thinks so little of himself, he cannot really love you. You truly have to love yourself before you can love another.

No matter what the reason, you shouldn't tolerate someone being rude to you. You need to tell him that's not acceptable. If he continues, get going!!!

This doesn't look good for you here. There are just too many underlying issues of a complex and serious nature to deal with in our lifetime. You're a better person than I am if you hang in their and try to change things. Then again, there are millions of women around the planet trying to change their man so they can stand to stand by their man.

well I agree with Tony but i have to put in my 2 cents well maybe just 1 cent... you didn't say and you don't have to say what happened before this .. maybe work pissed him off, a boss, a driver, or a clerk at a store.. I don't know but just maybe because he could coun't on you not running out he vented... hey he was still WRONG!!! talk to him if he was just being an ass let him know, who knows he might apoli. and explain him self ... If he doesn't want to talk or explaine him self give him a couple of days there might be something really bothering him that he is not ready to talk about, but if the violent behavor continues MOVE, AND FAST... sorry I'm not meaning to scare you just if it stays bad it won't get better...wbs

People tear other people down because they don't like themselves. Look into his background, his upbringing, his fulfillment in his job or schooling, etc. It sounds like he is extremely frustrated and has a very low self-esteem. People who really like themselves go out of their way to help others be their best. When they criticize, they do it constructively. Your boyfriend has a lot of problems that are coming up now, just as a volcano lies idle for years before erupting. If you can't do anything to help him...and there is little you can do because he must do it for himself...you'll have to either put up with his tantrums or move on. If he thinks so little of himself, he cannot really love you. You truly have to love yourself before you can love another. No matter what the reason, you shouldn't tolerate someone being rude to you. You need to tell him that's not acceptable. If he continues, get going!!! This doesn't look good for you here. There are just too many underlying issues of a complex and serious nature to deal with in our lifetime. You're a better person than I am if you hang in their and try to change things. Then again, there are millions of women around the planet trying to change their man so they can stand to stand by their man.

Your guys advice was very helpful, but I have another question. When do I know when enough is enough, and should I call him or wait tell he calls me. Thanks guys.

[Tony T]

I think you have already heard enough from this guy.

If he doesn't call with some real new brand of sincere downhome apology FIRST, don't ever speak to him again in your lifetime.