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Old 11th March 2006, 1:43 AM   #1
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Well tonight i went out and played bingo at a local bingo hall it was really fun i did win over %400 tonight... but the thing is i met this really nice girl that works there she is 19 and very pretty.. we talked for a while at the end i asked her ofr her phone # and she did give it to me... but the thing is I dont know if she really liked me or not.... she porbably wouldnt even give me her phone # of she was interested right????? but now what if i call her what would i say... i really need some help!!!!
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Old 11th March 2006, 2:31 AM   #2
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Just call her and say "hey I am so and so from Bingo! I Was wondering if you would maybe like to get together for dinner or a movie or hang out sometime"

Then go from there no way to know how intrested this girl is unless you make contact with her
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Old 11th March 2006, 1:34 PM   #3
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First off, she probably wouldnt give you her number if she wasn't interested. Just assume she is, it'll take the pressure off.

Next thing, don't call her for a few days. For all she knows you're out with a fabulous girl every one of those nights before you call. It'll drive her interest level up.

As far as what to talk to her about, start by talking about where you met and move on from there. Keep things light and funny. Focus the conversation on her, people love to talk about themselves. Women love to talk period. Also, keep the conversation to no more than 10 minutes. Have a good chat, ask her out, and get off the phone. The short amount of time will keep you mysterious - another interest level driver.

Here's a link to Askmen.com. This will give you some ideas, but search around the site, it's really good.

http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_...ng_tips_a.html
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Old 12th March 2006, 1:35 PM   #4
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Kevin,

Congrats on cutting to the chase and asking for her phone number! Excellent Work. (Most men fail to take this basic first step.)

Be warned, however, that just because a woman gives you her phone number does not necessarily mean she is interested. Lots of women will give their numbers out to men who they have no intention of seeing again.

Here's what you do to determine how interested she is in you. Call her Thursday evening. When she answers, say, "Hi, this is Kevin," then shut up. Do NOT remind her where she met you. This is how you test her interest level in you. If she's interested, she'll remember you and happily say, "Hey Kevin, how are you?", or "good to hear from you." If, one the other hand, she hestitates and says, "who?" then you'll know she's not interested.

Keep the phone call very short. Don't chit-chat for 20 minutes. Get right to the point. Say, "let's meet for a drink and shoot some pool Sunday night." Again, zip it, and LISTEN to her response. If she's interested, she'll say, "sure, what time?" Or, if she can't make it Sunday, she'll say, "that sounds like fun, but could we do it Tuesday night." If, on the other hand, she waivers and says something like, "well, let me check my schedule and get back to you," then she probably isn't interested.

I can't commend you enough for moving right in to get the phone number!! So far, so good!!
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