I am a good looking guy, nice car, with good sence of humor, a master degree in Computer Eng from prestigious college,good job, a family man, social, Christian, don't smoke, don't drink, no major illness, nice to people, always willing to help others....endless list.
Despite all the things that i thought she could find attractive in me, she still left me to another dude who works in a nursing home (don't mean to disrespect those who work in nursing homes).
I am left here wondering.
Women what do you find attractive in a man????
Men ,what do you think women find attractive in us???
she saw BORING...BORING....BORING. oh, and predictable and non-exciting. all are the kiss of death with females.
Really? I thought it was because of his huge ego and lack of self-awareness. In reality it's hard for us to tell why she left you based on two sentences about yourself.
she saw BORING...BORING....BORING. oh, and predictable and non-exciting. all are the kiss of death with females.
sad to admit, but this is true. Yes we want a good man ... but still "bad" enough to be appeal to us because most gals want to be "the one" to reform their bad boy. Not sure if it's a fixit-gene or because it appeals to our motherly instincts or it just poses a challenge.
a lot of it also has to do with chemistry. Regardless of who the guy is, there has to be some inexplicable hook that keeps us interested in a particular guy.
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I am a good looking guy, nice car, with good sence of humor, a master degree in Computer Eng from prestigious college,good job, a family man, social, Christian, don't smoke, don't drink, no major illness, nice to people, always willing to help others....endless list.
Despite all the things that i thought she could find attractive in me, she still left me to another dude who works in a nursing home (don't mean to disrespect those who work in nursing homes).
I am left here wondering.
Women what do you find attractive in a man????
Men ,what do you think women find attractive in us???
Firstly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder man,..sure you think you're a great guy (and you probably are),..but perhaps her definition is a little different. It varies from woman to woman which is why nobody can PIN it down. It doesn't matter what you do you'll never fit the bill for some women,...and you'll fit the bill for others. No choice but to be yourself.
she saw BORING...BORING....BORING. oh, and predictable and non-exciting. all are the kiss of death with females.
A man's job does not matter to her if she is not in the market for a serious relationship. When she is thinking about marriage then she might look you up but when she wants fun and sex you are not her type. Age has something to do with it as well so as you get older more women will appreciate your nice guy qualities.
A man's job does not matter to her if she is not in the market for a serious relationship. When she is thinking about marriage then she might look you up but when she wants fun and sex you are not her type. Age has something to do with it as well so as you get older more women will appreciate your nice guy qualities.
Thats not entirely true Yamaha. Scientists have found out that what attracts human beings to other can be directly related to survival/living needs. e.g. women like broad shouldered men because that ties back to needing a physically strong mate that can hunt/gather and protect the female. Similiary, men like nice figured hips on women because that indicates child bearing capacities. Likewise, subliminally, a nice car and a good job can attract females regardless of whether they want to settle down or not.
also, someone who is playful, adventurous, open-minded, has a sense of humour, is trustworthy, and takes care of their health. the fabulous job doesn't matter to me at all.
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A mischievous smile, a sarcastic (sometimes) and insightful (always) sense of humour, an underlying kindness and the sense that he finds me attractive. Those are the starting points for pure attraction. Relationship wise - those initial attractive traits, plus principles and values that are similar to mine.
e.g. women like broad shouldered men because that ties back to needing a physically strong mate that can hunt/gather and protect the female. Similiary, men like nice figured hips on women because that indicates child bearing capacities.
There may be a strong statistical relationship between being female and liking broad shouldered men, being male and liking nice figured hips but the reasons science gives us for WHY we like these things cannot currently be proven, they can only be theorized about. Attraction is influenced by too many variables.
A mischievous smile, a sarcastic (sometimes) and insightful (always) sense of humour, an underlying kindness and the sense that he finds me attractive. Those are the starting points for pure attraction. Relationship wise - those initial attractive traits, plus principles and values that are similar to mine.
I love your posts. I want to add intellectual depth. Lynda, I think we could design the perfect man.
in summary, women DO NOT KNOW what they are attracted to period.
they have no idea what they want!!!
I think you might be feeling a little bitter towards all women when its really your ex that you have bitterness towards, i dont mean that in an offensive way.
If you look at all women in this light then you will probably have difficulty having healthy relationships with them.
Every woman is different, different women want different things. Most women (with self respect ) do not want to be with someone who makes statements similar to above.
There may be a strong statistical relationship between being female and liking broad shouldered men, being male and liking nice figured hips but the reasons science gives us for WHY we like these things cannot currently be proven, they can only be theorized about. Attraction is influenced by too many variables.
Many things we now accept as FACT are infact only theories. Some things can never be proven,...but it must suffice that these "conclusions" have some solid basis and they have been and should be accepted,... in my humble opinion.
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In reality it's hard for us to tell why she left you based on two sentences about yourself.
Age has something to do with it as well so as you get older more women will appreciate your nice guy qualities.
I want to add intellectual depth. Lynda, I think we could design the perfect man.
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