to dumpees....if you could...would you have one more wonderful month with your ex knowing that after that month, you would have to go through the pain of healing again?
oh man, what a difficult question...
after an initial breakup of a week with my ex at the end of january we reconciled for another 6 days... plenty of sex, some rekindling of emotions, but then more drama and fighting... when the latter subsided, she picked another fight by digging too deep into coincidence and then blew up at me... almost like she was desperate to destroy anything positive that we had going...
i guess i would say no cause i actually started to feel better about us when we reconciled but then saw it all come crashing down again... =(
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this may sound weird but when I was with my gf I would have done anything for her....I mean anything if she had cancer I would have rather had it......but the way that she left me $%#^ NO she would never be worth the pain that I have had over the last week and still to come again just for a month besides they left us for a reason so $%#% THEM
I had a sort of reconciliation with my ex - after about 6 months of being broken up - and it lasted for about 4 months - and they were great. We didn't get SO back into it - kept it sort of casual, but I felt very comfortable and at peace - like I could stop obsessing about him being gone and live a normal life again. But he eventually flipped out, again, and we split on good terms - mostly because I saw after this time that there was nothing I could do, and that it wasnt me. It also gave me a little reminder of all the things I was unsatisfied with that I had forgoten in the pain of losing him the first time.
Everything was just more rational - but I guess that is not really the question..
To answer that - NO - the month together is not even close to worth it. I want a long term realtionship woth someone - not a month. Its pointless.
It's helpful and insightful to reads the posts on this particular thread...because I've often dwelled on the thought while I was trying to recover, about how I would go back to the ex just and maybe things would be different and I could make it better.. but now as so much time has passed by and reading about some of your experiences I think it was a pipe dream to think things would be better with someone who hurt me in the past. And I for sure the things I didn't like about him would most likely resurface and rear it's ugly head again. So nothing would change and I would be miserable again. It's amazing how I deluded myself to think he has changed and become this prince charming after he dumped me when he's most likely stayed the same meanie he was like when I was with him.
After recaping our whole relationship in my mind. I wouldn't go for another month... Our relationship died about 2 weeks before we broke up... I knew it was doomed in the first place... Now if the month was like it was in the very beginning then yes I would... only if he was over his ex...
to dumpees....if you could...would you have one more wonderful month with your ex knowing that after that month, you would have to go through the pain of healing again?
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that was the best and funniest reply...
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