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Old 22nd February 2006, 6:52 PM   #1
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i wanna slow this down after only the 1st date!

this is the last thing i want to happen.. moving in too fast, has never proved to be good for a relationship of any sort!!

i was on a movie date last night. at his house, in his room from sitting beside each other, turned to cuddling, and then to making out!

we're both pretty busy people, so it was like after midnight that we were hanging out. he got a hand up the shirt, and a couple bum grabs. and i called it a night

i'm not trying to be a c..ock tease, but i dont' want to give it all up. gotta make it a challenge.

got walked to the door, a kiss goodnight, we exchanged schedules for the week. good sign in my opinion!

probably not my ideal first date.. i kinda prefer a lil less intimate, more of a get to know ya.. but, what are some good ideas for a second date? there's really not much to do around here.

coffee, minigolf??
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Old 22nd February 2006, 7:36 PM   #2
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I feel the same way. I like to just get to know the girl the first date, and then become a little bit more physically loving on the next couple of dates if she seems to be worth my time. And I want the girl to comfortably know that I am worth the time.

Dunno, I have a LTR dating mentality here, progressively affectionate. From what I see above, the guy is rushing it, and the movie date.. dunno he seems kinda needy (ie. A Player) if he's already pulling the moves like that.

Any ideas for a second date? What the hell is this, You wooing him or is he wooing you? Be a woman.
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Old 22nd February 2006, 7:45 PM   #3
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from what i've noticed he seems to be pretty persistent about dating and such. him and i originally met in december, tried to get a first date in there.. but i had issues with the ex and wasn't really ready.

but he was always asking. i'm finally over the majority of the issues. and i'm sure if i had let him continue, he would have gone further!

..he was very sexual..

only wearing sweatpants, when i went to bend down to get my shoe.. BAM boner he really didn't seem to care bout that!

he's cuddly and cute. caring, and interested in stuff other than sex.

it was realy nothing against him for denying him.. just something i'm trying to avoid doing. i'm very interested in him look wise and from what i know of him personally. i would like to get to know him some more definitely
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Old 22nd February 2006, 7:49 PM   #4
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he's trying to woo me, but i'm always up for throwing out suggestions. we're suppose to be doin something on sunday?? i was thinking suggesting going out for a couple drinks or something. sit back, relax, good convo in a nice lil pub or something

first date, in his room was a lil awkward!
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Old 22nd February 2006, 8:42 PM   #5
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Watch out!!!

Ok who's idea was it to have the 1st date in his room after midnight?? That hits me as a bit odd and it would prob be a little bit..Of a red flag for me any ways as too what his true intentions really were with me.. Sounds like you got eather a player on your hands or a guy whos after one thing.. Because no matter how bizzy you guys are that's not the time or place for a 1st date...I'de Watch out there my honest suggestion.. Make sure your dates are in publick for a while I.E.. Movies or dinner or just hanging out in a publick setting.. Untill you are more comfterble with him and really ready.. To be more intamate if he's really into you and forming a real relashionship.. Then he will go along and take the time to get to know you.. If not and he always seams to want to be alone and in private.. With you then he's just looking for a pice of ass.. Best of luck to you.. And be carefull..

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Old 22nd February 2006, 9:54 PM   #6
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nah i agree that the room thing wasn't the best idea. but he wasn't forceful, and respected my wishes when i called it quits! we were suppose to go out the night before to a public place, movies 10 pm. but his meeting went late and i was incredibly sick :|

there's really not much else to do on a tuesday at midnight. but we still wanted to hang out, so we opted for that. we're hanging out again on sunday, and ya that's why this thread exists.
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