i want to ask you guys. whether i have chance to be with my ex again or not. I dumped her 3 months ago. She is really nice girl fren but we had different perspective. And i have disapointed her many times and i lied to her, because she was so good. I mean, she is smart, good looking ,rich.. nice hearted person. I have so many flaws which i think she will mind. I tried to impress her. by doing that, i decieved my self and her. Until one day, iam tired of my game and i broke up with her.

during these 3 months, i have been thinking. I think i have lost a treasure.and i dont think i will find someone who is so good as her. She is the best i ever had. I missed her many times, but i am not sure whehter she would accept me. Becoz since the day we broke up, she never contacted me. And i was quite nasty to her when i asked her to break up. I still have feeling for her and i want to hear her voice so badly. But i dont want to be rejected by her if i do so. What i suppose to do ?

[Blue in Texas]

I do not wish to sound harsh, but I think you need to spend more time concentrating on what is best for her, and less on what is best for you. Amongst her attributes, you mention that she is rich. Is that a factor in your decision? And it seems as though your biggest concern is that she might reject you. But breaking NC might hurt her. It might slow her healing. I think you have to ask yourself if you are not still deceiving yourself and if are ready to be the boyfriend she deserves. Have a look at the description of the balanced man attached to all of CaliGuy's posts. I am not judging you, b/c I do not have all of the facts. But you need to ask yourself honestly how close you are to being a balanced man.

[coasting]

My personal opinion is, if you really believe you made a mistake then send her a letter or a card explaining that and let her make the choice, as to wether or not she wants you back.
It has now been three months since I was dumped and honestly there is nothing I want more in this world then to have him call or come knocking on my door or sending me a letter or card, to tell me he made a mistake.
He also cheated on me, lied to me and it was the biggest betrayal you could
put any person through, but I am a firm believer in the saying:
IF you love something set it free,
IF it comes back, It is yours to keep,
IF it doesn't then it never was yours!
After two months of the serious hurt and pain I let my ex go in my heart, I had no choice but to let him go three months ago when he walked out. We
work together and just the other day he started making strong eye contact
with me and also went out of his way to communicate with me in reguards to a work matter, when the truth of the fact is he could have talked to any of the other nurses there.
I do agree with Blue that you need to put this girls feelings first, and I would hope that because she is rich, you are not priortizing this. Trust me money can not and will not buy you happiness or love and personally if someone ever decided to be with because I had money that would be the biggest turn off, and they would never gat a second chance let alone a first one!
Think about it! Let her do the deciding here!

[beriwhit123]

I Have A Question For You. My Boyfriend For The Last 12 Years Had A Affair. I Told Him To Leave And Now Almost 2 Month Has Passed. He Come Over Once A Week To Talk And Pick Up His Mail. He Says He Thinks About Me All The Time. But He Is Still With Her. What Do You Think I Should Do? He Does Know I Want Him Back.