[drpynedds]

I'm flying into LA next week for work and willl be there on Thursday and Friday. Here's the tricky part...my ex is flying back from the East Coast for her spring break that Friday night. I have a return ticket for Friday night (right before she lands) and one for Sunday night(spend the weekend). What should I do?

Here's a little history: We dated each other for about 4 years throughout college. She's currently in med school 2000 miles away, so since we are young and fairly inexperienced, she called this an opportunity to be single and try different things. We broke up 5 months ago, but I've been trying to be her best friend and skipping the awkward phase. Not a good idea, especially when I saw a picture of her with a guy she says asked her out, but she declined since she hasn't moved on. What kills me inside is that she's getting close to him everyday as they are good friends and study buddies. I know I haven't moved on, so I'm just setting myself up for some pain when they do decide to take it to the next step or she meets someone else. I haven't talked to her in a week b/c I blew the situation up the day before her birthday and she's pissed that I ruined her b-day.

I don't know if I should meet her next week. We are still good friends, but I think I need some closure or to let her know that I need to stop contact so that I can move past her. Since I'm living the country for 3 months soon for vacation, I don't want to be mulling all over her. I need some closure by letter or in person. I just don't want to skip on the first flight as she lands and never let her know.

Deeply confused.

[Ruff Ryder]

What will clouser bring you?

Maybe the chance of getting over her? Well mate you have to do that clouser or not.

Is the pain of knowing going to out your mind at ease?

"some things are easier to leave and let go that to understand"

You must way up the odds and make a decision for you what you need and feel. Meet her if you must but remember a wound is never healed if the door is alway open.

Take it easy no pressure to do anything that may hurt you ok?

[Blue in Texas]

Don't do it. As has been stated over and over on this board, if you can't handle seeing her with someone else, you aren't just friends. There is no getting around the awkward phase, as you call it. That is the grieving phase and delaying it won't make it go away. A one line polite email can inform her of your desire for NC. Stay strong and keep posting here.

[drpynedds]

It was tough getting on the place knowing that she was about to land in the same airport an hour later, but I did it. I wonder if it was the right move, but I'm you guys know what you are talking about. Thanks for the help.