Move overseas or break up???

Unseattled

Me and my b/f had basically broken up just before Christmas. Although we have a few issues between us, the main one was that I had developed feelings for a friend of mine. This changed our relationship (obviously) and we broke up before christmas. (I didn't cheat, but I was definately guilty of an emotional affair).

Due to circumstances, I was not able to move out of our house until three weeks ago. So our 'breakup' did not really start until three weeks ago. I have still been going around to his place while he was not there (we own it together so I would be around to feed the dogs, water my plants, and tidy up.) I have been enjoying the time to myself BUT also missing my b/f.

He has been offered a fantastic job overseas. The money is good, but better it is a great career move for him. The problem is, he says he will not go unless I come (he did not really want to breakup). The city he is moving to is a place I have dreamed about living in since I was a kid.

Do I stay here or go????

Problems
To stay;
1. He will give up a fantastic oppertunity
2. He will stay also. Meaning I will not be able to have him 'out of my life'. even broken up he still relies on me to do his shopping etc.
3. This is a place I really want to try living in, so I would give that up.
4. My crush still is around. He is a member of my close group of friends, I cannot avoid him. (I have not done anything with him. I have given myself a 6 month 'cooling off' period)


To go;
1. I would feel like he is only using me/ and me using him to get our respective goals

Seems like there is more problems if I stay...... should I just go???? (I know I am using him, but by the same token I would hate to see him give up the position......) I know I am a horrible person for having thoughts like this!