[Kutiepye]

Hi All,

I am in a very frustrating situation and I was wondering if anyone out there had some useful advice for me.

I have been working with this guy for a few months now. Since he started workk with us, some coworkers had pointed out to me that this guy might like me. So I watched for the signs and seen some flirting going on there. But I didn't think to much of it, because it is work.

We hung out a few times with his friends and had a few beer or drinks. He hung out with me and my friends a few times, but nothing ever happened. We were at a club one night and we were dancing and laughing and carrying on. Then the last song came on and as I was walking off the dance floor he put his hand around my waist and asked me to stay on the dance floor with him.

During the Christmas holidays, we had a party at work and he was there. He lives out of town, so I offered him a place to stay for the night. So we were just sat talking to each other and stuff having a few drinks and he asked me if I would mind him sleeping in my bed with me. I didn't object, it was nice to have someone to cuddle with again.LOL.

So the other night, he stayed with me all night again. He slept in my bed with me again and we cuddled all night. This time it was different....he held me closer and he was staring at me more, and always asking me what was wrong with me and stuff like that. So anyways, we were chatting and stuff, and I had mentioned that alot of people were making comments at work and stuff like that and he told me to not get embarrassed if anyone did and to just forget what they were saying because they have no reason to interfere in my life and I had no reason to be embarrassed.

Anyways, I am so confused because this guy have been in my bed with me twice and hasn't made a move on me. I am a very shy person and I kinda think he is too when it comes to girls. I don't know if he is interested, not interested, to shy or just has alot of respect for me. Can someone please help me??????

Thank you in advance.

[Raven1845]

First off, don't let anyone convince you he's gay. He did, after all, cuddle with you in your bed, so I'm thinking that gay isn't the answer.

But seriously,

It sounds to me like he obviously likes you. I can't imagine him cuddling with you all night if he wasn't interested.

Would you feel comfortable asking him how he feels about you? If you do that, you will know without a doubt what his intentions are.

[roxy_1980]

If he gets into your bed, he's interested. Period.

There doesn't seem to be any mixed signals here from my perspective. He's simply shy. Try kissing him first. It may loosen him up.

[GiveAndTake]

I dated someone like that years ago.

What I did was, the next time he stared into my eyes, I said "are you gonna kiss me or what?" He did.

We ended up married. (not married anymore of course...lol)

[Raven1845]

Originally Posted by GiveAndTake

I dated someone like that years ago.

What I did was, the next time he stared into my eyes, I said "are you gonna kiss me or what?" He did.

We ended up married. (not married anymore of course...lol)

Awesome advice! And the last sentence was cute.