We live about 20 miles, in the country, from town. My children go to school in this town and H and I work in town. Since we have moved out here in November I have been doing all the transporting of my children's friends here to my home, and then back to their home. One parent has offered to meet me half way to pick up her child but I had to go to town anyway so I just took her home. I don't mind taking my children and picking them up from their friends b/c they are my children and I'm responsible for them. But when my friends have their friends out I'm always the one that has to transport their friends. Other than this one mom offering to meet me half way to get her child no one has offered to come get their child from my home or bringing them out here. I just feel like I'm doing all the work tryingn to get our children together. I don't want to deny my kids from having friends over, but I do think parents have to help out w/ transportation issues. I have been told by other mother's they do not transport any other their children's friends b/c of liabilty issues (car accidents). Several of them tell me when their children have friends over their parents bring them or pick them up, and when their children go to friends houses they take them and pick them up.
I just don't think it's fair I have to do all the transportating to and from town. I realize that we chose to move this far from town, but I also think the other parents should help out in transporting their children to and from my house. What seems fair to you? I'm I not being fair about wanting a little help w/ transporation since we are the ones that live so far out of town?
Yes it would be nice if other parents picked up and/or dropped off the children too, but I'm not really sure what 'fairness' has to do with it.
Perhaps it's simply a matter of you doing it all the time so no one has really bothered to 'do their share', as it were?
Maybe you should decide how often you're willing to do this journey outside of school hours & just tell your kids that they have x number of journeys per week and that is all - then maybe their friends will start pressuring their parents.
When your child asks if a friend can come over, tell them that the friend has to ask his/her parent, because they will need a ride home. Better yet, you can arrange it with the parents, so that the kids don't fabricate a story.
As it is, the friends' parents are getting a free babysitter and free transportation. What's not to like from their standpoint? They are taking advantage of you and you are allowing it, IMHO.
When your child asks if a friend can come over, tell them that the friend has to ask his/her parent, because they will need a ride home. Better yet, you can arrange it with the parents, so that the kids don't fabricate a story.
As it is, the friends' parents are getting a free babysitter and free transportation. What's not to like from their standpoint? They are taking advantage of you and you are allowing it, IMHO.
Your probably right on that one, I'm allowing them to take advantage of me. Sometimes being a nice person can come back and bite ya in the ass big time. Just last week I called my daughter's friends mom while waiting for our girls to come out of practice. She said she was on her way to come get her girls. She was at a friends house a couple blocks away. I offered to take her children to her friends so she didn't have to get out. Well, she asked me if I could drop them off at her house instead as she had errands to run and it was easier if they weren't w/ her. Well, their house is clear out of my way but too nice me said "sure" and took them home. Give them an inch, they take a mile.
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