threatening suicide

newyorkgirl · 12th February 2006, 5:49 PM

I was with my ex boyfriend for 3 years i thought he was kind caring considerate honest etc....
Anyway in September i found out he had been cheating on me with some other girl, the breakup was really bad for as you can imagine as I was really close to his family and whilst he was cheating on me he began to treat me very badly.

I've been doing NC since December but he calls me every day and even comes to my house. He hasn't physically harmed me but he is really beginning to annoy me. I just want to get on with my life it's hard enough as it is.
He is still dating the girl he cheated on me with I'm sure she has no idea that he keeps calling me and coming to my house.

I have totally ignored all his calls and do not answer the door and now he is threatening suicide and leaving nasty messages saying his blood will be on my hands if I don't speak to him as all he wants to do is talk.

Please advise me I do not want to get back with him but He is really guilt tripping me. I don't know for sure if he will do anything stupid I don't want any contact but i would hate to find out he has harmed himself and I totally ignored him as we were very close.

clandestinidad · 12th February 2006, 6:08 PM

Call his parents and inform them since you are/were close to them. Call the police as well. This guy needs serious help, and you need to keep your distance while other people try to help him.

bluechocolate · 12th February 2006, 6:20 PM

.....but i would hate to find out he has harmed himself and I totally ignored him as we were very close.

Even IF he does harm himself you are not responsible for his actions. His attempts at emotional blackmail should be met with a wall of silence.

If you don't want him at your house & he continues to come over that is trespass. Call the police. Leaving nasty notes? Again, call the police. And maybe you should start thinking about a restraining order.

newyorkgirl · 12th February 2006, 6:28 PM

hey guys thanks for replying. i already contacted his mother and his brother and i'm gonna continue to ignore him. I think he does need serious help. Either that or he really believes he can have his cake and eat it too.

I will contact the police if it continues. The funny thing is that now he is acting so desperate it is so unattractive the other girl can have him.

I'm so glad you said it would not be my responsibility that is exactly how i feel but everytime he comes round i feel guilty or selfish for thinking like that as we were once so close. (Maybe that is his plan)

No Contact reall does work