Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
Help me out here. We just got married last oct. He is 47 and I am 27. He wont wear a ring, he called Lava life and I asked him about it and he admitted to it.
He says he has not cheated on me. He won`t innitiate love making. He wont hold my hand in public, he won`t call me honey when he is at work. I am tired of the relationship of two years.
He keeps in touch with his x- girl friends who do not know that we are married...!! What should I do, how do I move on? I just want to start cheating coz I am so lonely.
Oh, older men ruin relationships too??? I was under the impression that it was the younger women who got bogged down and left for someone younger (thats what someone told me, at least)...hmmmm, interesting....
Anyway, I'm sorry that youre going through this $hit. Were there any signs before you got married?? He sounds like a total loser. Was he married before, if so what happened (although that might not be very accurate since it'll be from his side of the story)
Help me out here. We just got married last oct. He is 47 and I am 27. He wont wear a ring, he called Lava life and I asked him about it and he admitted to it.
He says he has not cheated on me. He won`t innitiate love making. He wont hold my hand in public, he won`t call me honey when he is at work. I am tired of the relationship of two years.
He keeps in touch with his x- girl friends who do not know that we are married...!! What should I do, how do I move on? I just want to start cheating coz I am so lonely.
Wow, older men as well. Who would've known!!
I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this. Have you tried talking to him? Is he willing to listen??
Cheating will not solve it. Make sure you put in enough effort, this is your marriage after all.
Is his kind of work affected if people knew he was in a relationship? I see no other reason to why he would not wear a ring. I might understand not calling you sweet names if people are around...
Try not to iniate the lovemaking, I know it's hard to do since you feel so lonely, but see what happens.
I hate x-gfs, my partner keeps in touch with them too and it kills me inside...
Hang in there, find out more, try more, and you will know how to make the right decision!
I'd have no problem wearing a ring, I wear one my gf bought me. I am happy to call her honey, anywhere, and really pleased to hold her hand in public.
Not all older men are jerks, but some most definately are.
You have a big age difference, maybe he is a little sensitive to being called a cradle snatcher or dirty old man. (I am not attaching those appellations to him BTW), but some would. I got a few comments about my gf, although there is only seven years between us. Just told them that if they were as handsome as I was , beautiful young blondes would go for them too! That shut 'em up!
As for not telling his exes about being married, well thats too far off base for me. Just NOT RIGHT.
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All I know for sure is that I know nothing.
I married my husband because I love him, I know I love him even now, but
I am lonely and I want him to treat me like he is proud of me.
He says the age difference is the reason he is shy about talking to people about me. But I tried to leave several times before we were married and he asked me to stay and that it would be different. Now I realise that it will never be different and I don`t want to point blame for my unhappiness.
On the other hand, I want to be in love with my husband. We talk and yell at each other alot. He says he is too fat to make love, but he is not really too fat. Fat people make love I am sure. Well, he says I am the one with problem because I dont like to continue talking once we start yelling. I guess marriage is not a bed of roses.
It's not always easy to judge on the basis of a few short paragraphs, but it sounds to me like he wants to keep his options open for other women. If he really loved you and is committed to you, he would want the whole world to know it.
It may be, however, that he is very insecure about himself, and so he feels a need for validation in the form of attention from other women.
In either case, you need to get to the root of his behavior. For some people, counselling may be the best or only way to do this, unless the two of you are able to have calm, respectful, emotionally and psychologically probing conversations on your own.
I really think that marriage counseling would help you put him in place - somebody needs to tell him that what he is doing is not right. If he doesn't want to go then try to talk to family members or friends he trusts to persuade him that he is wrong.
You always have the option to walk away in order to teach him a lesson or simply leave and never look back.
You are unhappy for a reason and you have a right to be happy. It's easier to spend a year or two crying over your ex than putting up with someone's bad treatment your whole life.
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You exist, that's enough 
That shut 'em up!
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