[gordon_gc]

I will try to keep the story short. My exgf broke up with me about 3 months ago. Recently, she has been dating a new guy for about 4 weeks. she lives in Brisbane (Australia) while I live on the Gold Coast (Australia) -cities about 70km from eachothers-
When we were together, we used to stay in a coty or another during the week end. I know for a fact that she still come around (she has relatives here).

I wanted your advice on something. I have accepted the break up. I have even partially accepted the new guy since I know I have no control over the situation. However, there is one thing bothering me...I dont like the idea of them hanging out in places, restaurants, cafes where WE USED to.
These places are emotionally charged with good memories and the worst thing I can think of is someone taking these memories away. Do you think I am rational ?

Do you think I should tell her about it ? I wrote a text message and would like your opinion too. "That's cool if u r around with that clown but there is 1 thing I am asking you, please dont insult me by hanging out where we used 2. These places are emotionally charged and I truly want 2 keep beautiful memories. I guess you understand where I am coming from"

[Blue in Texas]

Gordon. I am assuming that you have not yet sent the message. My advice would be not to make that request. I don't know how big your town is, but it might not be a realistic request. Moreover, it sounds like you have been real strong up to this point. But I think she would interpret it as weakness on your part. She might even tell new dude, and how bad would that suck? If it is possible, why not just avoid those places yourself, assume that she is avoiding them too, and keep on healing?