[Ride4Bliss]

I'm new to this forum. My boyfriend broke up with me over the phone this past Friday evening. We were together 8 years. I guess it was time for it to end. We both wanted different things. I kept hoping he'd "change", but we all know that doesn't happen don't we. I'm trying to cope as best I can, going from being fine one minute, to bawling like a baby the next. I wonder how long it will take until I don't feel so crappy?

[jerbear]

Originally Posted by Ride4Bliss

I'm new to this forum. My boyfriend broke up with me over the phone this past Friday evening. We were together 8 years. I guess it was time for it to end. We both wanted different things. I kept hoping he'd "change", but we all know that doesn't happen don't we. I'm trying to cope as best I can, going from being fine one minute, to bawling like a baby the next. I wonder how long it will take until I don't feel so crappy?

Each person takes their time to heal, even when you feel ok, other memories can bring back memories.

8 years is a long time; breaking up over the phone I don't agree since it is 8 years.

To help start the healing process is to deal with it one day at a time, then weeks, then months.

You can get thru it. The folks on LS (LoveShack) are here to help.

Waiting for someone to change is somewhat futile. I've tried to change or make someone else change it ended up being push and shove.

[Ride4Bliss]

I agree, it was totally lame of him to do it on the phone. I am going to just take it one day at a time. 8 years is a long time, and I think evenings after work is going to be the hardest. I deleted his number from speed dial etc, and am going to try really really really hard to NOT contact him.

[Raven1845]

Hello Ride4Bliss.

I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling the pain of a break-up. I am currently going through this myself.

After 8 years with someone, you deserved the courtesy of a break-up in person. What kind of jacka$$ breaks up with someone on the phone after they've been together for 8 years? I'm so sorry.

I understand the crying episodes you're going through. I'm having them as well.

Because I'm going through a similar situation, it is difficult for me to give any good advice, but I hope it helps in knowing that someone understands the pain you're going through.

Hang in there! Try not to contact your ex. I have embarrassed myself countless times contacting mine, and I'm no longer willing to feel that kind of humiliation. We'll get through this!

(((Sending a big hug to you!)))

[jen_jen_heartbroken]

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. That's a horrible, cowardly way to end things. I though my ex of eight months was bad for doing that.....but eight YEARS!!!

You've come to the right place. Talk to us and we'll help each other get through this.

[WindDrifter]

Ride How did you both know it was time? What happened?

Cheers,
WD

[Fester Lungblood]

Hi Ride, that's a real sh*t thing to have happen to you. I know it must hurt like something awful. I guess the best thing to do is let your emotions flow through as they need to. And hopefuly you've got someon'e shoulder to cry on. At the least you can stay here and let some of these kind people help you as best they can.

[AltplanB]

care to tell the whole story? Wed all like to access and tell you our thoughts.

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally Posted by Ride4Bliss

I'm new to this forum.

Welcome! It's a little crazy here sometimes, but there's plenty of good support and advice.

My boyfriend broke up with me over the phone this past Friday evening. We were together 8 years.

As other posters have already observed, that's pretty low. And cowardly. My ex did this too.

I'm trying to cope as best I can, going from being fine one minute, to bawling like a baby the next.

Perfectly normal. Just keep talking to your friends and keep posting here. As Alt says, tell us your story.

Take time to pamper yourself and do things you value. While it's natural to think about him and the relationship, make an effort to balance this with thinking about you and your future.

And don't contact him. Not in the first month or so anyhow.

I wonder how long it will take until I don't feel so crappy?

Everyone has their own timing. There will be bad days and good days. The bad days will get less frequent and less intense over time. But a bad day may still come out of the blue from time to time.

As a rule of thumb and just as an indication to help you orient yourself, for most people, most of the healing takes place in the first year. You go through all the significant dates without them.