[beautifulobscene]

So, I've just gone through a really bad break-up.. horrible, heart wrenching, gut wrenching..just plain BAD! Well I could go on..and on. Still going through it, but getting much better..baby steps.

Anyways, was out in the city today and ran into an ex of mine from about 6 years ago - this girl ripped my heart out and then stomped on it..a hundred times or more! And then ran off with my best friend! I didn't think I was ever going to be ok.. I didn't think the human body could hold that much salt water.. So anyway I run into her, and I stop and wait for the pain, hatred, despair..but it's not there, nothing. It was just like "Hey, there's a girl I used to know..I'm going to say Hi!"

I guess I'm just saying it IS all ok in the end, the pain doesn't and won't last forever, although I know it feels like it will. Life DOES go on! Crazy, I know!

Don't know if this helps anyone or means anything to anyone.. maybe I just needed to purge..and convince myself that it does happen!

Hoping this will happen one day with the current ex

[riobikini]

Thank you for that.

And 'thank you' echoes from the future from all the rest who read it and do not believe it, yet.

But one day will.



" Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires. "

-Francois de La Rochefoucauld



(Smile)

-Rio

[luvtoto]

I can relate with your thread. Everytime I would see my X's blazer driving around town...my heart would skip a beat. Then, one day, I saw his blazer parked outside a bar around 5:00-ish. No skip. Nothing. I even remember bracing myself mentally for it. I then knew it was over with him. I even remember feeling reaaally good about my progress I made in getting over him.

Thanks for your story. It was sweet.

[WeaknPowerless]

These things go second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour. It's hard.

I've carried the past on my shoulders before. Held a grudge against someone, and one day I woke up and "forgot". Imagine that, all my spite and bitterness (I was quite young, and although somewhat justifiable, this sort of thing is detrimental to all involved), just disappeared one day. I truly know time does heal...

The current situation for me is different. If you really love someone, you love them where ever they are. The love will change, you won't love them intimitely anymore, nor should you love them like a partner, but that care and faith for them will always be there, when they enter your mind. It's easy for me to type the words, but to register them right now is totally different. Where is the line? You love, they take away. They abuse/cheat/become indifferent, what should your self esteem tell you to do? At some point I will forgive and forget, but that ember will burn. I guess time will tell how I/you/anyone will feel...and also determine if the love was real or not, depending on your own definition.