Re-marry the Ex

Tender · 31st January 2006, 10:01 PM

I was married for 7 years. My husband cheated on me. In retaliation, I did some pretty bad things to him, but never slept with another man. We have been divorced for 2 months, but have continued a relationship. I am still in love with him, and he with me. We are never on the same page about rebuilding our relationship, i.e. I want him/He does not want me or He wants me/I do not want him.

I hope that in the next few weeks we finally get on the same page. Is there anyone out there who has remarried their ex - and found happiness?

Art_Critic · 31st January 2006, 10:05 PM

my brother remarried his ex.

They were married about 1.5 years the first time.. then divorced.. stayed apart for about 1.5 years and then go back together.. remarried and have been for almost 9 years..

They hate each other and are miserable and are staying married to make sure their kids grow up with both parents.

I think you need some time AWAY from your ex.. maybe 6 months then if you both have worked it out and fixed your issues then start dating one another..

My brother wishes he had never remarried her.. you don't want to be kicking yourself for such an obvious ( to some people ) mistake

Tender · 1st February 2006, 2:18 AM

Thank you so much for your input. We do not have kids together, so I am thankful for that. I am sorry to hear about your brother. As I sit here and write this - I believe my ex is with another woman (again). So, I will do us both a favor and cut all ties. I thought I did that with the divorce - but I didn't. This is a new forum for me - I will probably use this as a way to keep busy. Thanks again for the advice - I will give it atleast 6 months. I plan to talk to him, or chat via messenger, but I will refuse his advances to see me. That is when I melt. I am moving in 2 weeks, so he will not know where I live. That will help. I have refused to go home, or to his house, since I found him in bed with another woman, so I will not be going to see him either. Thanks again for the story - it was refreshing for me, to hear that something I was contemplating turned out badly for someone else. Sorry, but let your brother know that his decision, helped me not to make the same mistake. I am rambling .....