[lobsterbabe]

I am a little confused right now and probably anyone of you guys can give me some light here.

Here's the thing: I have been in this really great relationship with my bf. He's divorced with a kid. I'm single, no kids.

I am 27. He's 39. At this point, I have no interest in having kids anytime soon. Maybe never. I don't know. I don't even think I'm the mother-type to be honest.

The other night he mentioned that he doesn't want to have any more kids. I said, "Okay. I don't want one right now either."

But that got me into thinking: "What if I change my mind someday? What if I want to have kids someday?"

As it is right now, I plan on going back to school and get my MBA and want to be financially stable. He's already a successful guy in his own field.

We don't really have a lot of arguments or anything... Like I said, everything's been really great.

But I think if I really want to take him seriously, as in taking it to the next level (marriage), I have to consider about the kids issue.

At what point should I sit down my concerns with him? We've been going out for almost 10 months now. Should I wait a little longer? Or should I address this now? I mean, like I said, I don't even know if I want to have kids someday. Right now, no way. Am I just wasting my time? I'm confused.

Has anybody here been in the same position as I am?

[nightowl]

I think you should talk with him. Explain that one day you may want children. Ask him how he feels about that. Keep in mind, he may not want one now, but he might later, and you might not want to.

Don't put the horse before the cart.