I recently met this guy, ML, and we hit it off: he's really smart, cute, treats me well, and we share similar values and interests. The one thing that threw me off a bit is he's shorter than me. I'm 5'7", and tend to look about 5'10" in my usual shoes. He's 5'6".
Back when I was a lot younger and dumber (I'm in my early/mid 20s), I used to say there was no way I'd date a guy shorter than me. And until now everyone else I'd gone out with was at least 5'10". This is kind of out of my normal comfort zone. For example, I have really long fingers and my hands look longer than his. Is it really weird to think this is weird?
But ML, has me intrigued. We're going out for our 3rd date on Wednesday. Thanks for any comments, advice, support.
Last edited by brightskies; 24th January 2006 at 1:31 AM..
Well, the good news is that really there is not that profound a height difference. It is just that those heels really do a short guy in! So, if all other things fall into place it will probably be no big deal. Maybe you could interest him in a pair of cowboy boots They really help a short guy out.
My boyfriend is 5' 6" and I'm around 5'9"(that's with no shoes whatsoever.) I used to have a rule against short guys too, but I hardley noticed it after the first week. When I first met him, It was strange for me, but if the chemistry is right, you don't even notice it.
I did have a bf who was 5'7" who was the same height as me for about a month (damn late growth spurts) then he was a couple inches shorter, and it bothered me way too much, but that's because half the time he wasn't acting like the man in the relationship, and that just made me notice the height and maturity differences in a magnified degree.
So the short boyfriend rule doesn't even have to be noticeably thrown out, you may just find that it disappears later on, because you just don't notice it, or see any problem with it anymore.
Well, the good news is that really there is not that profound a height difference. It is just that those heels really do a short guy in! So, if all other things fall into place it will probably be no big deal. Maybe you could interest him in a pair of cowboy boots They really help a short guy out.
Well, he usually wears hiking boots which probably add an inch or so. and i've never seen him without shoes. For all I know he's really 5'5"!
My boyfriend is 5' 6" and I'm around 5'9"(that's with no shoes whatsoever.) I used to have a rule against short guys too, but I hardley noticed it after the first week. When I first met him, It was strange for me, but if the chemistry is right, you don't even notice it.
I did have a bf who was 5'7" who was the same height as me for about a month (damn late growth spurts) then he was a couple inches shorter, and it bothered me way too much, but that's because half the time he wasn't acting like the man in the relationship, and that just made me notice the height and maturity differences in a magnified degree.
So the short boyfriend rule doesn't even have to be noticeably thrown out, you may just find that it disappears later on, because you just don't notice it, or see any problem with it anymore.
I know what you mean about noticing the difference more if his masculinity/maturity were in question. Luckily, ML is all guy, and seemingly a pretty mature one. I think I can look past the height, but I definitely can't look past the masculinity/maturity factor. I guess when things work out well, after a while people looking at you funny when you're holding hands or whatever doesn't matter.
Hehe, just don't say what my BF said to me: "You're short, but I love you anyways..." My boy will never live that down....
Well, my boyfriend calls my older sister (by 4 1/2 years) my 'Little sister' cause she is short. I always reply back "she's only a couple of inches shorter than you." It's never meant to be, or taken as an insult, and he usually just says back "well, I'm short too." and reverts to calling her my 'big' or 'older' sister after that.
Hehe, it is actually kind of endearing because I love his charming awkward thing... like he told me I was an anoerexic hippo once... and I was like WTF... so he explained that he meant it because hippos are cute (they are???) and I am cute but hippos are fat and I am not fat so I am cute and thin like an anoerexic hippo... I felt bad for laughing my arse off since he was trying to be sweet.
Um, I have a dumb and awkward question. If a person is small, does that mean their "equipment" tends to be small?
Or, to be fair and not to put all the pressure on the guy, since I'm the taller one, would it mean that I might be "too large" for him? Is there any way to measure the insides of a woman?
Sorry, I know this sounds silly. But I'm new to dating someone shorter. I know some taller men can be "smaller," so I hope shorter men can be "larger"?
Argh. I know these are weird questions. But I'm really curious. And it's not like I can outright ask him. We'd both die from the embarrassment. Or he might hate me and never want to speak with me again.
There's absolutely no correlation between a man's height and package size. Nor is there any correlation between a woman's height and her, uh, holy of holies.
I'm curious about something, brightskies. Why the angst about height? Why should it matter one way or another?
There's absolutely no correlation between a man's height and package size. Nor is there any correlation between a woman's height and her, uh, holy of holies.
I'm curious about something, brightskies. Why the angst about height? Why should it matter one way or another?
Holy of holies.
Why the angst? That's a good question. I don't know why. Maybe it's some leftover hang-up from my childhood? Maybe I was socialized by the media to prefer a taller man? Maybe it's similar to how some men tend to prefer women with a 0.7 waist to hip ratio? Honestly, I'm not really sure. But I really like the guy, and am attracted to him. So, I'm still dating him. I'm just a little nervous I guess, since it's new for me.
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We're going out for our 3rd date on Wednesday. Thanks for any comments, advice, support.
They really help a short guy out.
Is there any way to measure the insides of a woman? 
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