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I've been trying to figure out what makes some people think the way they do and figure out if I should be upset or if I should be happy I no longer have to deal with it.

Basically I've dated this girl for over 2 years. The past few months we have gone through various stages of NC but I think this time we're done. I realize that a lengthy relationship like that will take time to heal but I have to know if I'm upset over a lot of things for no reason. I am by no means perfect but I really wonder what goes through some people's heads.

There were hurdles to begin with in the relationship because she had a child when she was 19 and daddy has been in and out of jail. It seems though that she used her child as pretty much an excuse for everything. It was her excuse to get me to pay for everything all the time and arrange my schedule around her.

Of course I can't type out everything but here is an example of what I've been dealing with for pretty much the entire relationship:

I had my birthday recently and she wanted to take me out and buy me dinner and get some drinks. Said she would be here about 1pm. Well, one o'clock comes and goes and I call to see where she's at. I finally get in touch with her at 3 and she tells me she'll be here at 4. Five o'clock rolls around and she finally gets here but she doesn't quite understand why I'm just a little upset. Instead of apologizing she comes up with the following:

1.) She had to clean that morning, which put her behind.
2.) She had her cell phone on silent so she didnt hear me call.
3.) Her cell phone finally died.
4.) She got talking to the babysitter and lost track of time.

Now, this isnt an isolated incident and stuff like this happens quite frequently, but somehow she always seems to make me out to be the bad guy because I expect for someone to pick up a phone and call when they are going to show up 4 hours later than what they said they would. We went out to dinner anyway, but she stiffed me on the bill. Needless to say it didn't go over well.

My question is, what makes people act this way and think that its acceptable? Am I overreacting? I would love for someone to be able to explain this to me.