I am on week 6 of NC. This is the longest I have ever gone. I actaully feel ok! Time does help so much. It is like as the weeks went on, I opened my eyes to what was REALLY going on. I see it clearly now that my emotions are not running so high. I figured out a few things about him. He does have NPD and that is something I can never change. One thing that helped was asking myself what is it about him that I will miss so much that another person cannot give me? I came up with nothing, which is good. I had built up this man to be great and really, he is not! I see it now.
Just wanted to give hope to those in or starting NC. Give it time. I still have a long way to go, but as long as he stays away, I will be fine. Iused to wonder if he would call, and now I do not so much. I do not want him anymore. He cannot have ME. His pattern is to come back and I am excited to ignore him and show him that out rollercoaster ride is over!
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It's been 6 mos. for me and Im still thinking about my ex all the time....I do have to admit I feel a lot better than I did a couple of mos. ago but I just wish I could move on already.....when i drink a little i still have that urge to go by a bar he may be in or give him a call...i hope this goes away
it does take time...but it DOES get better.. four months for me..and I have thoughts of her most days..but I'm feeling OK about it now...im just missing the physical stuff now!..so its time to get out there
I think of my ex every day but when I do I catch myself and say "She doesn't deserve to occupy any space in your mind. She's done and over with!" Then I try and replace thoughts of her with something else I like and poof, she's gone again.
It's hard but yes, it does get better over time.
And Wendel, if you have someone new in your life that you're attracted to, you'll find thoughts of the ex being replaced with thoughts of the new girl
CaliGuy: "if you have someone new in your life that you're attracted to, you'll find thoughts of the ex being replaced with thoughts of the new girl. "
It's a hard fact of life that we can all be replaced.
With other people, with other activities,, -and, sometimes, maybe, even objects.
But come to think of it, if we've never been very lucky, and we wind up satisfactorily replacing the ex with an object, it only goes to show us an important realization about the relationship, anyway, doesn't it?
But come to think of it, if we've never been very lucky, and we wind up satisfactorily replacing the ex with an object, it only goes to show us an important realization about the relationship, anyway, doesn't it?
LOL -- I'm going to remember this quote for a while!
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