i just want to know that she gives a f*ck about me.
She probably does give a f*ck about you in her own way, but obviuosly not enough to talk to you or call you. She's moved on UT and you need to do the same thing. I KNOW it hurts, but it will get better in time. Your problem is your sitting home obessessing over her (I think). I haven't read all of your other thread. You need to push yourself to keep so busy that you don't think about her as much. Keep active and meet new people. The withdrawals you're going through are taking over your life right now and you need to take control of it. I promise that things will get better, but contacting her right now is only going to give you false hope and set you back. Think about it, if she's nice to you, you're going to think there's a chance, which will make you feel better for awhile holding onto that hope, but once it doesn't pan out, you're going to be right back where you are. You need to reach a point of acceptance that it's over. It's also possible that you do need to call her only to find out that each time you touch that stove, you're gonna get burned. Eventually after being burned numerous times, you might decide to move on. Only you can make that choice. We're here to give you advice from our own experiences. I hopw your day gets better.
Do not call her, UT! You've come SO FAR!!! Remember when I e-mailed my ex 1 1/2 weeks ago? Remember how it made me feel??? and she didn't respond negative at all....just cold. I'm sure your ex is giving you the time you need to heal. She's doing what you asked. My ex did the same thing. I believe now she's at the point of NC because she knows that everytime she did contact me, it hurt. I'm sure your ex does care about you - and think about you. But...you need to worry about yourself. After you talk to her, it'll be that much harder...trust me...I've been there. PLease don't call her
I am in no posisition to give any good advice without sounding like a hypocrite, Because I don't know what to do either, But I want you to know I understand, and your not alone my friend. I think a good thing to do is to get rid of anything around the house that belongs to her, maybe even erase her name from your AIM, and or delete her name from your cell phone.
Maybe even avoid places for a while, where you know you'll see her, I read your post and I really feel for you, cause I know how horrible it is.
Hang in there.
Ok UT, you have four people telling you not to do it, and for very good reasons too.
I was going through turmoil recently, and I think I got the same advice, it wasn't the same situation as yours, there had not been a period of NC.
I read the posts, I even think you advised me to do the NC thing as well.
Now I will have to admit I went against all the advice and went around to talk to her. Remember we had not entered NC, so this may be invalid here, in fact I think it probably is. All I want to say here is this, I took the time to post here and read the advice. That gave me time to formulate what I had to say to her. What I had to say, and what I expected the outcome to be.
To prepare myself for her to tell me to get lost, or to continue talking, or to throw herself on me professing undying love, even to have her jump out of the shadows and stab me.
So, if you want her back, or are prepared to consider this, think about what you have to say.
Plan your approach. Do not act on an impulse. If you can get over the pain barrier and do some rational thinking you will be better placed to know what to do.
I hear the NC shotguns being loaded here, and pointing in my direction.
I am not exhorting you to break NC. Just to think about the motives you have here, thats all.
today has to be one of the hardest days of my break up. why after 2 1/2 weeks am i again breaking like this. why is it like this?
why can't i get better? if she hasn't called for 2 1/2 weeks...she's moved on...right? or shes very determined to right?
completely normal. we all have gone through this. it WILL get better--but you have to maintain NC, or it starts all over.
you were the one who told her not to contact you. she is respecting your wishes. she cares enough about you to do that. but she needs alot of space and distance to truly feel anything for you right now.
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