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Old 18th January 2006, 11:31 PM   #1
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Question about divorce

My divorce trail is now only a month away. I was just wondering if anyone has ever asked the judge to mandate marital counseling. I was told by a freind that they have heard of this happening. Though it seems very unlikely that she will have a change of heart anytime soon, I feel like I should do everything in my power to keep my commitment to her.
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Have you ever dreamed a dream so wonderful that when you wake up, you just try to go back to sleep so you can keep on dreaming or, the life you live now is so painful, that you would rather spend the rest of your life dreaming? Let me tell you about my dream.

In my dream, my wife loves me like she used to
She is thankful to have someone like me who loves her so much
She realizes the man she has is so special to her that he is worth fighting for
In my dream we hold each other close and are so content to just be where we are
Our hands fit so perfectly together that no one could ever pull them apart
In my dream all that matters is us, the future is uncertain, but we don’t care
Because we know the future contains the two of us together
When I dream all is well
The pain I go through cannot hurt me
The fear I go through cannot scare me
The loneliness I feel cannot touch me
But, when I wake up all the hurt I go through once again becomes reality
The uncertainty of my future with my wife slowly kills me
I hope and pray that these dreams will once again become reality
I try to fall back asleep hoping that my dreams will continue
And, even though I know that if they will continue, it will only be for a little while
At least the pain is kept away from me for this time
You see, most people live their dreams while they are awake
And have nightmares while they sleep
But, my nightmares take place while I’m awake
And my dreams are lived while I dream
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Old 19th January 2006, 10:47 AM   #2
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Personally, I've never heard of it. And I dont think it will have the positive affect you are looking for. In fact, I think it will push her further away. The only thing you can do is allow her to make her own decisions and focus on your own life. If it's meant to be, she'll come back, if not, you've focused on yourself and have moved on anyways. Either way, you'll win. If you truely truely love her, you'll respect her decision and let her go.
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Old 19th January 2006, 10:51 AM   #3
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It depends entirely on the jurisdiction. But, alas, I believe dgiirl (as usual) is right. Respect your lady's decision, honour your feelings of loss, and grow with the knowledge that you did what you could.

Good luck.

PS: If you can avoid trial - for instance, if it's just one or two issues that need resolving - by all means do it.
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