[ladiesman]

Hi, i'm new here I found this site somehow and figured at least someone here could at least give me a little advice as to what to do. ok... here goes..

My girlfriend used to be a party girl before she met me. I am very quiet live at home commute to college since it is very close and the house is free plus i would rather have my car then an over priced apartment or dorm. Anyways i'm "abnormal" since i'm not a "normal" 19 year old, by no means am i nerdy or geeky, I'm 6 foot, Italian, and currently know a couple girls that are interested in me (even if i dont like them for reasons i will write). Basically she stops partying because I suppose we hung out a lot. So everything is great but then her friend dies... sad yes... my girlfriend then wants to get another tattoo (she has one already and I do not find them attractive but she had it before i met her so i dealt with it) I told her i didn't think she should get one.. days go bye and she calls me asking if she could get one finding out she is at the tattoo place. I tell her go ahead do what you want. She gets it (btw i she tells me she called her old boyfriend (whom she cheated on to be with me me of course not knowing this until much later) to complain to him about me).... bad couple of weeks go bye.... things get a bit better.

Then her friend comes home from college and has her nipple pierced... so of course now its "Hey can i get mine pierced?" I basically say I don't really want it they don't look good. Bugs me some more so i say just do what you want i don't care... she gets it done after a huge argument and me paying for the damn thing....

Then the big stuff started happening. She moves out of her dorm into an apartment with her roomate. On her screename i noticed that her old boyfriend's name is on there all of a sudden.. ok i thought maybe she just wanted to talk to him for some unknown reason. But knowing better i figured she was secretly talking to him because next time i checked his name was missing from her list.

So having this information i stupidly checked her phone which she left at my house in her messages.... I wish i saw stuff about her old boyfriend but i found out she tried coke and is back drinking again... so another huge argument ensued nearly broke up with her but trusted her to not do coke again. I am always blaimed by her friends that i stop her from drinking and having "fun" so i left her drink as much as she wants trusting she will be decent.

So i go to a few partys with her over the break and during beer pong some guys were saying show us your boobs and stuff and her comment was "I would but someone here would get upset"

Now out of the blue her friends want to get matching tattoos... and of course she called and asked me if she could get one already knowing i dont like them already KNOWING that we nearly broke up from the first one....



What the heck is my next move? Do i let her get another one? Do i say no and just hope she doesnt when i turn my back? PLEASE someone give suggestions

[morrigan]

You two just don't sound compatible. You each enjoy different lifestyles and you're both young.

It really has nothing to do with the tattoos or the piercings, which she shouldn't have to ask your permission to get and you shouldn't be expected to pay for.

If she wants to move in with her pals, go to parties and use drugs, it's her choice, good or bad. If you don't feel comfortable with the decisions she makes, it's best for both of you to break up.

[Lucasarts]

lose the girl kid...you're complete opposites that this wont work

[justagirliegirl]

I agree that is sounds like you two are on different pages in life right now. Seems she is just interested in casual relationship right now.

Also why does she have to ask your permission to do anything? She is an adult and she can do what she wants. You can either accept it or not. Snooping and invading her privacy isn't cool either.

It just sounds like you would be happier with someone else.

[BlahBlahQueen]

I fourth that motion

[ladiesman]

i know going through her stuff is not cool... and to tell you the truth it was extremely unlike me and i wish i didnt know about the stuff she was doing. I've asked her why she bothers asking me and the response i get is "i want your opinion on it."

[mel777]

[QUOTE Do i let her get another one? [/quote]


Sure and after she gets it done let her breathe eat and drink some water. Dear lord, she's your girlfriend not your property. If you don't like what she does move on.

[Cecelius]

She asked, he's trying to decide what his answer should be.

She sounds like she's not LTR material, frankly

[Weye]

If she wants piercings and tatoos, there's really nothing you can do about it. She is asking oyu for your opinion? So, give her your opinion. Tell her how you feel about it, but remember its her body, so its her decision. She doesn't need your permission.