[Chocolatellama]

Hi everyone,
I'm only 16 and my boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me last night. We went out 2 years ago for about 3 months and i never really got over him, so in july last year we decided to get back together. We were so in love and everything was going great until he started to change. I used to get upset because he was acting differently towards me. I haven't been happy for the past 2 months but i decided i was going to try and make things better and not give up on him. Then last night he told me that he loved me, but he wasn't in love with me anymore. I am so heart broken. He is my best friend and hes the only person that knows the real me. Whenever i think of him i can't stop crying. He still talks to me like everything is ok between us. I don't know what to do, i want him back so badly but he doesn't want me. I'm only 16 and i was hoping someone older perhaps with more experience in this could help me learn how to get over him, move on and enjoy being single. Please help me

[SLEEPLESS IN NJ]

Chocolatellama, when I figure it out you will be the first person I tell!!! All I can say nothing anyone says to you is going to make you feel better

[Kengne]

Originally Posted by Chocolatellama

Hi everyone,
I'm only 16 and my boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me last night. We went out 2 years ago for about 3 months and i never really got over him, so in july last year we decided to get back together. We were so in love and everything was going great until he started to change. I used to get upset because he was acting differently towards me. I haven't been happy for the past 2 months but i decided i was going to try and make things better and not give up on him. Then last night he told me that he loved me, but he wasn't in love with me anymore. I am so heart broken. He is my best friend and hes the only person that knows the real me. Whenever i think of him i can't stop crying. He still talks to me like everything is ok between us. I don't know what to do, i want him back so badly but he doesn't want me. I'm only 16 and i was hoping someone older perhaps with more experience in this could help me learn how to get over him, move on and enjoy being single. Please help me

Hey girl!!

First off - I'm sorry you're in pain right now but please know it WILL and DOES get better.

I'm 22 btw - and I have been where you are now, SEVERAL times. Please understand that both you and your ex-bf are very young, and as young ppl your feelings & emotions will change & evolve rapidly - as you change & evolve rapidly yourselves. This is normal. This is normal.

My advice to you now... I know you're not going to like it, but you have got to stop speaking with him, FOR NOW. Until you can talk to him without hurting. Until you can talk to him as a friend & nothing more.

You need to take this time out to yourself to heal. Get busy with your life! What I did was started hanging out more with my friends (avoid mutual friends if possible, because you're more likely to run into him around them). Start a new hobby. Buy new clothes, get a new hairdo, something!

When you feel like talking to someone, call up one of your other close friends as opposed to him. Or come on here & vent!

And when you're ready.. you can look at dating others. Don't force yourself to do it though - only when you're ready.

Truss me when I say this - you will sooooooooooooo get over this, TRUSS ME!! You have your whole life ahead of you, even if it doesn't seem that way now. Your heart WILL find another home.

K.

[Chocolatellama]

Thank you so much guys.. you have made me feel better. It is true that nothing anyone can say will make the pain go away but some things my parents told me made me realise that i had grown out of him. He used to put no effort into the relationship and when i asked him to he would get angry or upset.. Relationships are about giving and recieving, not just giving and giving and not getting anything in return. I gave so much into that relationship and he refused to even acknowledge that. I know i deserve better and i will find someone worth my time. He was too immature and didn't want the same thing out of the relationship that i did. I've decided that when i'm ready we're still going to be friends because i couldn't bare to lose him completely.