[niteowl]

Not sure this is exactly the right place for this thread...I have looked for a topic on this issue and can't seem to find one....just trying to sort out some feelings and work on me and I have a question...
Here goes...
After being hurt so incredibly badly, how do you ever trust anyone again?? I have been in relationships before, and thinking back, I never really had trust issues because I was always the one to end it...this time, the rug was pulled out from under me. Looking back, my finace 'played the game' for at least a week, pretending all was okay, then *poof* he was gone....
I'm just curious how I'll ever be able to open up again, to trust completely, to not make another man 'pay for the sins' of this one.??
I know weveryone is different...I thought that about my finace too...

[In Sync]

Originally Posted by niteowl

Not sure this is exactly the right place for this thread...I have looked for a topic on this issue and can't seem to find one....just trying to sort out some feelings and work on me and I have a question...
Here goes...
After being hurt so incredibly badly, how do you ever trust anyone again?? I have been in relationships before, and thinking back, I never really had trust issues because I was always the one to end it...this time, the rug was pulled out from under me. Looking back, my finace 'played the game' for at least a week, pretending all was okay, then *poof* he was gone....
I'm just curious how I'll ever be able to open up again, to trust completely, to not make another man 'pay for the sins' of this one.??
I know weveryone is different...I thought that about my finace too...

Part of recovering is learning how to trust...for each of us here, we are are at different points of dealing with having been heartbroken. Trusting someone is part of finally healing and looking at a new relationship a little wiser, but not comparing and judging the new person to our ex relationship. Trusting again means you are not being held hostage by what happened to you. It's
telling yourself that not everyone is the same and no matter how one person may have hurt you, there's someone out there who will love and respect you and you can open your heart again. We can not predict another's person's actions..there are no guarantees...but until we free ourselves from the any emotional prison we create for ourselves we will shut down any opportunity to find and seek love again.