[luvtoto]

This guy that I work with has known me for 2.5 years. Even though we've worked together that long, I never really knew him. He recently asked me out. We went out to lunch today, and we took another coworker with us who is my bestfriend, as moral support. Anyways, when we got back...she pulled me aside to give me a couple pointers. She told me to cut down the swearing and to not put myself down around him so much. She said..."that's not you...you don't swear." She said, "just be yourself!" Later in the day, I was complaining about a certain person that just sold me a car recently around him. Well, he told me that he knew the guy and he was a good guy. That's all he said.

Could I have screwed this day up anymore?! My friends tell me that I am reading too much into things...to just relax.

I am just feeling reeeeaaally vunerable & stupid. I've never had anyone just like me for who I am before. If this guy still likes me tomorrow...it'll be a miracle. I was fine around him until I found he liked me and now I am just messin' up left and right around him. My friends insist that he's still interested.

How do I "get a grip" and start playing it cool around this guy?

[itwontdawnsooner]

you get a grip by not focusing on it, and when youre around him pretend it didnt happen. talking about it too much, the cursing/the friend thing, will bring more attention to it, which you dont want to do. unless he brings it up, in which case just say "i guess i got nervous/didnt feel like myself, i feel better now"- light, easy. relaxed. thats probably the advise friends are giving you,or something like it

if he still is interested in you (still possible, try not to worry), show him the true you on a second lunch date and pretty much all will be forgotten on both your parts!

[luvtoto]

Don't focus on things and act like it never happened...great advice! I actually was going to bring it up next time I saw him. But, I will go this way instead. The thing is...is that before I knew he liked me I was just myself. No pressure. I wasn't trying to make any impression. Now, it's just odd at work now. Do I act like a coworker...or a potential girlfriend? I've never dated someone from work before.