One thing about him turns me off. Should that be a deal breaker?
Pretty simple problem, but I have yet to find an easy solution. I hope someone can help. Here's the deal: I am 25, and somewhat interested in a guy I met who is 31. He's sweet, fun, and I think he's attractive (nice body, cute face, etc). I know that he is interested, as he has asked me out to dinner, over to his house when he had a party, and calls me a few times a week to see if I want to meet up for a drink, etc. He even calls me sometimes just to say and to let me know he was thinking about me. We have not yet done anything physical, except for a kiss on the cheek. He asked me to stay over one night after the party and I didn't (mostly because I didn't know him that well).
Here's the problem, if you can even call it that. Every time I have seen him (including the night we met) he was wearing a baseball cap. I didn't think it was a big deal, I just figured he liked it. However, the other night I asked to see what his hair looked like (I was curious). He took off his hat to reveal a COMPLETELY shaved head. I don't know if he did that because he thought it looked good, or perhaps because he had started to lose his hair and that seemed like a good alternative, but I don't like shaved heads. I have never been attracted to a guy with a shaved head. I wish I wasn't bothered by it, but it turns me off. Everything else about him that I know, I like a lot.
Is it horrible to decide not to date a guy because of something like this? I want to date him, and I like him, but I can't get over how much this turns me off. Help!!!!!
OK, here's the deal: If you don't like the fact that he's shaved his head (and, granted, very few white guys can pull it off without looking like a jerk) then ask him to grow his hair.
But... and this is a HUGE but... don't be surprised if he suddenly says that he thinks your feet are too big, or something.
Do you have a problem with shaved heads or with bald guys?
I mean, is it a matter of looks or is it that you associate shaved heads to a certain kind of personality/lifestyle?
I find almost every bald headed man absolutely adorable.
Bald or shaved.. I was so strongly attracted to a guy this summer that shaved his head. I loved it when he took his baseball cap off. Gawd..
I loved to glide my fingers across his bald head and it aroused him..
I miss that man. He wasn't ready for a relationship. He is still hung up on some issue with is past... Damn it anyway.... He contacted me around Thanksgiving and apoligized for not being fair to me and explained to me why. It wasn't me!! It was him!! and I knew it all along..
But I have moved on from that experience...
Some bald men are just irresistable...
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Totally shaved, as in shiny head? Or does he have very short hair like stubble? If it's real short, you can look for the regular balding spots at the forehead and back of the head.
It's TOTALLY shaved, to the scalp. I just don't like the way it looks and feels. I've always liked touching a guy's hair. Even if it was buzzed and just really short, I'd be okay with that. But the shaved down to the skin thing turns me off.
Is it possible to get over these kinds of turn offs with time, like if I got to know him better I wonder????
I'm on the opposite side of the coin--I love men with shaved heads (some guys do have the perfect skull shape for it) but I'm totally turned off by guys who wear baseball caps.
Chemistry is a strange thing. You might not get past it, or you might get to know him better and find him sexy overall. Some more time will tell. If it still turns you off, it turns you off.
I love bald men and guys with skinheads and crops !!!!!!!!!!!!!
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One thing about him turns me off. Should that be a deal breaker?
Pretty simple problem, but I have yet to find an easy solution. I hope someone can help. Here's the deal: I am 25, and somewhat interested in a guy I met who is 31. He's sweet, fun, and I think he's attractive (nice body, cute face, etc). I know that he is interested, as he has asked me out to dinner, over to his house when he had a party, and calls me a few times a week to see if I want to meet up for a drink, etc. He even calls me sometimes just to say and to let me know he was thinking about me. We have not yet done anything physical, except for a kiss on the cheek. He asked me to stay over one night after the party and I didn't (mostly because I didn't know him that well). 
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